[ SECRET POST #2831 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2831 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
[The Great British Bake Off]


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02.
[Trailer Park Boys]


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05.
[Gotham, Ugly Betty]


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06.
[Outlander]


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07.
[Short Circuit]


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08.
[Agents of SHIELD]


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09.
[Are You Being Served?]


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10.
[Avengers]


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11.
[Gotham]


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15. [ SPOILERS for Valiant Hearts; The Great War ]












Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #404.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

If I'm not in the mood to talk, yes, I cut people off. Why shouldn't I? And if they insist on talking about an interest or fandom I don't care about after I've told them so? Yes I cut them off because at that point I'm either bored or frustrated or both and talking to this person is a waste of time. Not sure what those other questions are even about, but no, no, and no.

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, that's diagnostic.

Honey, we can now assure you that the problem here is not other people. It's you.

[solticisekf]

hey, everybody's different. The anon above didn't say they have any problem. They just have a different opinion.

[solticisekf]

The other questions imply that if you say YES to them, than you're an antisocial person or a misanthrope.

[(Anonymous)]

Expecting conversations to always revolve around things that only you are interested in, and being rude to people when they don't, really isn't much better than lying to people.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah no it's better than stringing someone along and then complaining behind their back.

[(Anonymous)]

Why do you think that allowing someone to talk about things that you're not personally interested in necessitates complaining about them behind their back? Is that where the disconnect is, here? Have you just known a lot of petty gossips?

I don't talk about people behind their backs. I will also listen to what they have to say, regardless whether it happens to align with my interests or not. I don't do this to deceive them. I do this because I value them for more than what I can get out of them.

[(Anonymous)]

Because the secret said asking them about things you are not actually interested in hearing them talk about.

And yes, everybody who has ever started a friendship with me by SPECIFICALLY ASKING ME to talk about stuff they don't care about while they PRETEND to care about it has turned out to be a petty, self-serving, shallow backstabbing shitheel. So yes, forgive me if I think it's not a cool thing to do to people.

[(Anonymous)]

If something's important to someone, then I might ask them about it even if it doesn't interest me, because it's important to them and so I want them to be able to talk about it. But...my motives are very different from what OP's motives might be, and they're certainly different from the motives of the kind of people you're talking about.

I'm sorry you've had a lot of run-ins with assholes.

[(Anonymous)]

In that case, you still care somewhat about what they're saying, so you're not even doing what's going on in the secret. You aren't asking people to talk about something you don't care about purely for the purpose of changing the subject, which is what the OP says they do.

I think that's why people are getting so pissed at those defending this behavior. The people defending it are leaping to the OP's defense while actually defending something completely different.

[(Anonymous)]

And I think that's why I was having so much difficulty explaining myself and understanding why what I was talking about seemed so foreign and terrible. It was two different things being discussed.

I'm sorry for the misunderstanding.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. I'm sorry I broke out the Capslock of Rage, too. This is just a really sore spot for me because of the experiences I've had with people. To the point that I'm automatically wary whenever someone asks me about any of my interests. Because in my experience, that's been code for "I think you're ridiculous and I'm going to trash you to my real friends once you're out of earshot."

[(Anonymous)]

You know, I think that's completely alright to do, but only if you're not a pouty little crybaby who gets all huffy and sulky when you get cut off talking about something someone else doesn't care about. Because I know a lot of people like that and it's really annoying.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh, have you been paying attention? Like, at all? I would rather someone cut me off when they don't care about what I'm saying.