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⌈ Secret Post #2841 ⌋

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Comments

Re: hitting disobedient children

[(Anonymous)]

In general, I would have to say I'm in the 'don't hit kids' camp, but I'm certainly not rabid against it.

What is your stance on the 'don't touch that' hand swat? Mom used it to keep us from doing things like touching hot objects when we were still too young for the words to mean much of anything. By the time we were three she just had to use a sharp "Hey!" to get our attention, then slapped her own hand. The motion and the noise was enough to tell us that what we were doing was not allowed, dangerous, and that she was disappointed in us. It wasn't really a punishment and was a very effective teaching tool (it was reserved for things that *did* hurt when we did it anyways), so I'm personally onboard with that one.

Out of the three of us, I was the only one ever spanked (I'm a girl with a sister and a brother, if it makes any difference). I was six, it was *one* swat to the butt, and it was for consistently getting into the breaker box *despite* having been punished for it already in all the other ways my parents used. My Dad was seriously concerned that I was going to electrocute myself or light something on fire. He felt terrible about it afterwards, but it was effective. For me, it was the shock of it that made the point. Even at that age I made the connection between my worse punishment and the corresponding seriousness of my actions. The only other time I ever remember seeing that look on my Dad's face was when he saw me standing directly behind the tablesaw while using it, having forgotten about the kickback. No, he didn't hit me that time, but at fifteen I remembered the spank and drew the immediate 'this will *kill* you' connection.

Given those memories and connections, I can't say I'm totally against it. However, it should *never* be the go-to punishment. Too many people use it to punish in anger or just plain overuse it, and I would *never* recommend it, but I'm not ever going to condemn the general practice of it. Specific cases, like my neighbours or cousins, yes, but not the whole idea of it.