[ SECRET POST #2841 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2841 ⌋

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Comments

Re: hitting disobedient children

[(Anonymous)]

Sure, a lot of times kids don't understand or care about what they did wrong.

Hitting them doesn't equate here.

Here's a better method. Kid hits his sister - immediately send kid to room, kid can't come out until parents decide he's "calmed down" and is ready to process. Kid doesn't like it because he's waiting for a lecture and can't play, and knows parents are going to have words with him, but it's non-violent. And it does give the kid a chance to calm down and get away from the household while he's out of control. Next, parents process with the kid. Make the kid first recite what happened from his point of view, and what he think happened from his sister's point of view - empathy practice. Then of course parents discuss why it's unacceptable behavior, always followed up with what the kid will do when his sister is making him mad next time, what acceptable behavior might be (e.x. get an adult, go play somewhere else, etc). After that, "make amends" - what can you contribute to make it better. First, an apology, and then retribution in the form of chores. Vacuum the living room, sweep the kitchen, something like that.

Whole process is non-violent, and not fun for the kid - but teaches them the correct way to confront frustration.

Seriously, this is the method I'm trained to use, actually, I work with kids in a group home who all have behavioral problems. It's the general method our agency condones, and it works.