[ SECRET POST #2862 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2862 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 042 secrets from Secret Submission Post #409.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - random textless image ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

If you equate loving one person deeper than others as narcissistic then I genuinely feel sorry for you.

[(Anonymous)]

Loving one person more deeply than others at the moment is not the same as never being able to love anyone else half as much.

[(Anonymous)]

I never said "at the moment."

[(Anonymous)]

Are you being deliberately obtuse? Any relationship is of the moment. We like to think that a happy relationship will last forever, but very often it does not. That does not rule the possibility of loving another person fully as much--and perhaps even more--at some future time. But naive people always imagine that you can only ever really love once, and that if you ever love again, one or the other is second best.

[(Anonymous)]

No one said any of that. Neither the secret nor me. Whatever you're taking out of this about being second best is on you.

[(Anonymous)]

The secret says very plainly that the characters "could never love anyone else half as much." If you believe that, then if either individual were ever romantically involved with anyone else, that relationship would indeed be second best.

[(Anonymous)]

Naive is believing love is egalitarian.

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If you love someone more deeply than you love anyone else, that's perfectly understandable. But so much deeper that you'd "never" be "able" to love anyone else half as much? Even if they died and you lived on for another fifty years? That says very little about your capacity for love or the specialness of your partner or the quality of your relationship. If you become unable to ever love anyone else even half as much as one particular person, then you're actually talking about some personal, entirely self-centered fantasy in your head.

Now, there are other layers to relationships -- saying you'll never find someone who understands you quite so perfectly, or who has these particular special unique traits, or who clicks with you in quite the same way, or is ever quite as important to you because of the timing of that relationship in your life. That's a bit of a different matter, because that's more about the logistics of a human lifespan, not about your capacity to love.

[(Anonymous)]

As with most fandom things, this becomes an issue when you can't separate reality from fiction. I like soulmate kind of themes in fanfic, but seeing people try to apply it to themselves or others is very disconcerting. I also like time travel, magic with detailed 'rules', and avian humanoids that probably couldn't fly with real physics applied.

Don't get me wrong, it's perfectly fine to prefer realism in fictional relationships, the problem comes when you try to bring people down for liking what you don't like.