[ SECRET POST #2862 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2862 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's the difference between wanting to have sex with a person, based on that person, and wanting to have sex for the feeling. Plenty of non-ace people have sex with partners they're not attracted to just because they like sex, but when an asexual person does it they come under scrutiny from both sides.

[tabaqui]

Maybe? But i wouldn't have sex with someone i wasn't attracted to in some sense, because the attraction has to be there for me to actually *enjoy* the sex. If i just wanted to get off, i'd do it myself - no muss, no fuss.

[othellia]

Pretty much this.

[(Anonymous)]

Everyone's different. I'm not ace, and I'm fine having sex with people I'm not attracted to if I feel like having sex with someone else. Sex is more physical than most people are willing to admit.

The example here though, is someone who is romantically attracted to and involved with their partner doing something that they'll both enjoy.

[(Anonymous)]

Sex is more physical than most people are willing to admit.

I'm not totally sure what you mean by this. That it's just a physical thing and so it doesn't matter if you're attracted to the person? Or something else?

something that they'll both enjoy

The asexual person won't necessarily enjoy it, though.

[(Anonymous)]

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It's not so much that it doesn't matter, I think? Still, someone else touching you feels way different to touching yourself - regardless of attraction. So sometimes, you might want that feeling, and attraction to the partner becomes secondary.

To me it's the other way around - attraction or not, the physicality often doesn't work out for me, so I think I kinda get it.

[(Anonymous)]

How common is that really, though, to have sex with someone you're not attracted to just because you like sex? Maybe I'm wrong, but I think most people need to be at least somewhat attracted to someone to have sex with them.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean I've done it and I'm not ace. I know a few other people who have. As long as the person has decent hygiene and isn't terrible in some way.