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⌈ Secret Post #2866 ⌋

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Re: How to deal with the death of a parent TW: death

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so sorry, anon. This might be a good place to start:

http://www.cancer.org/treatment/supportprogramsservices/index

As, uh, well-intentioned as the whole "dull your pain with booze and drugs" advice was, I wouldn't, personally. It'll numb things temporarily, I bet, but in the end you'll have two problems: your mother's health, and your own damaged ability to care for herself and you.

Agree that now is the time to start getting affairs in order: will, funeral arrangements, etc. It does seem morbid, but a lot of people feel better planning this stuff out because at least it won't be a burden for their loved ones. You may want to consult a lawyer to help you make the arrangements and ask for advice on how to handle finances. I assume you are not a minor? If you are, that will complicate things and you definitely need legal advice then.

Rally a support network. Whatever family and friends are available, for both your mother and yourself. In times of illness like this, sometimes people just vanish. They can't cut it as a support, or they want to help but don't know what to do and then feel so bad about not being there that they awkwardly withdraw from your life. Sometimes people work best if you can give them specific things to do:

* run small errands like filling prescriptions, getting groceries, etc.
* sit with your mother for an hour or two so you can get some time to yourself-- VERY important, anon. It's not selfish to take care of yourself to make sure you get through this.
* convenient meals, stuff that can be frozen and heated when necessary, take out, pizza gift certificates, etc.
* people to talk to, or people to just go and be with sometimes when you don't feel like talking. Maybe there'll be a time when you need a friend to come and take a walk with you in the woods to clear your head.
* bucket list - this is very individual, but if there are some things your mother would like to do that you can do together, make a list and start ticking things off. Make memories you'll treasure.
* ask your mother to write down her life story and as much of your family history as she can remember, for whenever you want to read it. Maybe she can write letters to future you. Ditto photos/video.



I am so, so sorry, anon. Please keep us updated on FS.