[ SECRET POST #2870 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2870 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[X-Files]


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(Doctor Who/Torchwood)


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(Benedict Cumberbatch)


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[Star Trek]


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[Star Trek Voyager, "Macrocosm"]


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[Great British Bake Off series 4, Ruby Tandoh]


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[How to Get Away with Murder]


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[Far Cry 3]


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[Krazy Kat & Ignatz Mouse]











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Comments

[fscom]

08. http://i.imgur.com/pe9hk6x.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

Get off the internet and onto your spouse.

[(Anonymous)]

Lol. This.

[(Anonymous)]

lol

[kallanda_lee]

Yeah, because that will stop them being in love? It would work as damage control, but frankly this sounds like beyond the point of damage control.

[(Anonymous)]

Meh, sounds like a crush to me.

[kallanda_lee]

It might be, but deep emotional connection can form over the internet. If you throw in RP it can get even more complicated.
Point is they already let it go beyond a certain point if they deem themselves in love.

[sarillia]

It's hard to judge. Some people are way more liberal with the word "love" than others. When I first met my girlfriend I had one friend who kept talking about her like she was the love of my life when we had only been talking a week.

[kallanda_lee]

That is indeed a fair point.

[(Anonymous)]

I think that's reading this secret too far.

[kallanda_lee]

well, I think it depends on how you define "in love". Some people will use it casually for a crush, but it an (and often does) imply deeper feelings.

[(Anonymous)]

meet them in person for one day. you'll probably realize you can't stand them.

[cloud_riven]

I completely misunderstood your secret the first time, and totally thought you meant "are both married" as a kind of expression of how close you are. Oh shit.

But oh lol you are in for some guilt trip times ♥

[(Anonymous)]

I was in the same situation as you, OP. But I soon discovered that it was just me closely associating them with what I loved.

The feelings might feel oh so real, but trust me, it's not so easy to seriously contemplate leaving your spouse for what equates to fandom happiness. It's not worth it.

[(Anonymous)]

I actually understand how you feel. I was engaged, and ended up developing a very intense emotional friendship with someone else, to the point where I was harboring a pretty nasty crush. It's not as though I loved my fiancée any less, so the guilt was terrible.

You're not going to want to hear this, but the only answer is coming clean with this other person, telling them how you feel, and that you need to back off from them. Your spouse takes priority here (of course unless it's not a good relationship, but you've made no indication of that). Maybe even discussing this with your spouse is a good idea, but I can understand if that's too big an emotional dump to take on someone if nothing's going to come of it.

It took me a bit to shake it, but I honestly feel a million times better about everything now than I did while I was mired in all that. I miss my friend sometimes, but the complexity surrounding that friendship wasn't worth sacrificing my impending marriage over-- sometimes cutting off the source of your temptation really is the only answer.

[shadowblight]

The people in this thread like to project themselves and their opinions I see...

Just wanted to say I can sympathize with you, OP. Sometimes shit on the internet can feel just as serious as real life. Sometimes... just sometimes... it IS as serious as real life.

You most likely would be best to write out some personal feelings (whether this be a private journal etc), about both your spouse and how you feel about the other person. As you feel more comfortable, you will want to probably reveal bits and pieces of those to them to get ideas on how they react.

And keep in mind that sometimes love is not one road, it can be more than that if all parties agree, too. Take stuff a step at a time, regardless.