[ SECRET POST #2872 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2872 ⌋

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Comments

[philstar22]

This is pretty much me. I could have made this secret. Although, it is pretty true for male/male and female/female friendships for me too. I just like shipping really close friends. The dynamic of people being comfortable and knowing each other and developing romantic feelings slowly just really, really works for me.

Also, I thought I was the only one who shipped Jadzia/Sisco, although I OTP Jadzia/Worf.

[(Anonymous)]

I really dislike people having close friendships and then slowly developing romantic feelings. I like my friends to stay friends, and my romances to stay romances. In fact, this "slow friends to lovers" stuff gives me the crawling heebie-jeebies, to be honest, because it would be my worst nightmare in real life. Ten times more so for het relationships than m/m or f/f. Every male/female friendship that turns into romance that wasn't hinted from the beginning feels like someone invalidating my existence and my feelings and relationships as something that "just doesn't really happen and isn't very valuable, lol".

Yes I know how silly this sounds. It's just what I FEEL, not what I think.

[philstar22]

That' totally understandable. We all like the things we like and dislike the things we dislike, and relationships don't have to look the same. I used to think that there was a right and wrong way to do romance (and ships), but I've come to realize that different types of relationships work for different people.

Personally the friends to lovers thing is exactly what I want in real life. I want to fall for someone I'm comfortable with and who I can talk with. My parents were best friends for years before they fell in love, as were many of the other couples i know in real life. So this is the model I have of a good relationship. It's what I know.

[(Anonymous)]

I really dislike it too, but only in fiction. The reason is that as soon as there's romance, in 99% of cases, the female character gets written as if there's nothing else going on in her life apart from the man, and her storylines get subsumed to his. And she has to be not quite as awesome as him so he doesn't get unmanned. And I was almost always watching for the female character anyway, so I get disgusted and switch off.

Examples; Scully/Mulder, Bones/Booth, Ororo/T'Challa
Exception: Aeryn/John
Unusual exception: JJ/Will on Criminal Minds - because he's not a main character and she is.