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fandomsecrets2014-11-15 03:33 pm
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Some advice from someone who regularly deals with grief
The process of losing a loved one doesn't come with a mandate that says you have to experience any specific emotion. It's fine not to feel much of anything, and often people have periods of time where any emotional processing seems difficult or impossible. It doesn't make you a bad person or any less empathetic to process loss or grief in your own way, even if that way is not especially traumatic or fraught with emotional pain.
I know very well that it can sometimes be a bit of a relief when someone dies, especially if there was a drawn-out illness or gradual decline. It's perfectly normal and okay to feel that as well.
Don't pressure yourself or feel guilty if you don't immediately (or even eventually) react intensely to this. Let it come as it comes.
Pay attention to what others around you are feeling if you like, but how they react doesn't make your own reaction wrong or bad if it differs from theirs.
Re: Some advice from someone who regularly deals with grief
(Anonymous) 2014-11-16 04:31 am (UTC)(link)Thank you for writing this. I'm still struggling with the loss of someone almost a year ago and my emotions now and at the time, and this actually kind of helps.
Re: Some advice from someone who regularly deals with grief