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⌈ Secret Post #2890 ⌋

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Re: How to not become your parents

[(Anonymous)]

Sympathies, anon. My parents can be real downers too, the kind of people where nothing is ever good enough. Over time I developed a thick skin and I tend to ignore their remarks. You can also try calling them out on in in a mild fashion. "Wow, that's awfully negative." or responding as if they said something positive and completely blank them on the negative parts.

"Hey, mum, I just did a month's of hard work and finally accomplished this thing I've wanted to do for a really long time, and I'm super excited!"
"That's nice. Now why didn't you do this thing? And this thing?"
"Thanks! I'm feeling very good about [accomplishment]."

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"I don't really want to talk about other people like that."

If they persist, leave the conversation. It's carrot or the stick. Your parents behave nicely, they get to communicate with their kid and everything is peachy. They don't behave nicely, welp, time to go.

As for not turning into a negative person yourself, I've heard of going through this checklist:

* Does this need to be said? (in other words, is it kind, it is helpful, etc.)
* Does this need to be said, right now?
* Does this need to be said, right now, by me?

Mostly it's just remembering to be conscious of what you're saying and how you're saying it. Self-correction is a PITA, but eventually you'll teach yourself the good habit of not pissing in other peoples' cornflakes.