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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-12-03 06:00 pm

[ SECRET POST #2892 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2892 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Brendon Urie, Panic! at the Disco]


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[Legend of Korra]


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[Natalie Dormer]


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(CE3K)


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[Kiefer Sutherland, The Lost Boys]


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[Diego Luna/The Book of Life]


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[British comedian Jon Richardson, 8 out of 10 Cats]


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[BBC Robin Hood]










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(Anonymous) 2014-12-04 01:06 am (UTC)(link)
I sort of can and can not get behind this kind of logic at the same time, I guess (and of course fantasies are just that and you shouldn't fell bad about them in any case!).

Like, I sure get why someone abandoning their child entirely would be offputting and at the same time not wanting to the type of "get together with a new partner, win their child from a previous relationship for free!"-deal, either (heck, this is why single parents with young kids were never part of of the group of people I was willing to date back when I was single!). And at the same time, I still don't quite get why my LTR with someone who, like me, doesn't have and doesn't want kids, would seem less bad to intrude on/break up than that of a couple with kids, or why a married couple opting for divorce when the marriage doesn't work out anymore should be so much worse if they have kids (even when there are lots of kids who don't mind/are happy about their parents' divorce, wished their parents had divorced at all/earlier, as well as kids who are sad/upset about it).
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[personal profile] kallanda_lee 2014-12-04 01:11 am (UTC)(link)
Well, to me (in my logic of the fantasy) the object of my desire and their partner could still naturally break up (without me having anything to do with it). I mean, relationships fail, marriages end in divorce all the time. Kids, however, kids you can't "break up" with.

So it's not so much about intruding as "it's not necessarily permanent".