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No you don't, you just think it makes you special.

Eh. I'm not totally comfortable with this attitude, because many of them probably do have depressive issues, and that attitude can be really harmful for people who are depressed. Treating 'being depressed' as some kind of status you have to prove you deserve is just kind of fucked up and harmful in my experience. No matter how annoying people on Tumblr are.

ayrt

You know I can understand that, but I get annoyed with people saying "but I have depression" as an excuse for things, and a lot of people do it. I'm diagnosed, and I don't use it to justify my behavior, and it makes me angry when other people do or when other people who don't seem to actually have it whip it out as a justification because, first of all, it isn't a justification for anything, and second of all, you're (general you) making it harder for those of us who have it and have to deal with shit from society over it.

When people treat depression as an excuse, it just feeds into the attitude that it shouldn't be taken seriously.

I agree with all of that

I guess it just makes more sense to me to say that, instead of trying to de-legitimize peoples' mental illness

Well, but how do you define "justifying behavior"? I remember (though really rather repress) days where I'd lie on the couch by 4 pm and literally couldn't do anything - stand, eat, put on socks, whatever - I literally remember one specific occasion where my mom put on my socks because my hands just didn't have the strength.

I also remember being pretty egocentric, because I just needed what little energy I had for myself. So yes, it totally IS going to change my behavior. Undeniably. At which point do you call acknowledging that an "excuse"? If you use it to justify being a jerk to people, I agree with you. But if you say, "I couldn't do X because I felt shit because depression", that might well be true.

Problem with depression is, it can take many forms and your might have not been exactly like theirs, which doesn't make theirs less valid.

Problem is "depression" as a word is overused anyway, and "I'm depressed" is used colloquially anyway by people who are not.

nayrt

I agree completely that the word is overused. However there's also the tendency these days to over-medicalize normal responses, e.g. the stress from school tests, employment issues, difficult interpersonal relationships etc. which most Tumblr users by their very demographic will face. Those things are meant to make you feel sad/angry/frustrated/anxious, but all too often they get smacked with a label rather than helped to be processed in a healthier way. So I'm not sure I'd completely agree that depression takes many forms -- I'd argue that these days we call an awful lot of things under the depression umbrella instead. Of course it doesn't make their feelings invalid, but whether what those feels are is technically depression in its illness form is debatable.

That's why more recently when people talk about depression-the-illness rather than depression-the-feeling they'll use "clinical depression" and diagnosis has a set criteria of symptoms and duration thereof.

I sort of disagree that depression doesn't take many forms - which is why it's sometimes hard to differentiate between the normal responses that you mentioned and clinical depression. Though maybe we just disagree on definitions here. What I mean by many forms is that you have gradations of severity and duration, that the causes can differ, and that the way individuals react to it, or how symptoms manifest are different from person to person. And it gets especially tricky if depression is not the only mental issue in play.

The problem there in relation to the internet is self-diagnosis, which yes, is pretty rampant on tumblr.

That being said, I personally know the difficulties of getting a decent diagnosis, and to this day I'm not exactly sure what I had/have.

The thing is though, in case of depression caused by external factors all those normal things you mentioned - they can eventually lead to depression if not addressed in a helpful and constructive way. Not in everyone - but in individuals already prone to it - it can. So that's the thing. You could have two people who were unemployed for a year. They both feel bad about it, they both have negative feelings, and they both cal it "being depressed". But in one person the unemployment was an actual external cause for clinical depression (that they're already prone to), while the other person is just feeling really down by the situation (and calls it depression, while it isn't clinically so).

But, that's why I find it so tricky to call bullshit on depressed people on tumblr. Logically, yes, I know some made an incorrect self-diagnosis. However, as an untrained (and even trained) person it's pretty hard to judge that based on an online presence. Two people could be in near identical situations, react similarly - yet one could be clinically depressed and the other not. Which is why, when in doubt - I'd rather give them that benefit of the doubt. I'd rather treat 3 "healthy" people as depressed, than to doubt one actually depressed person who's reaching out.

I hope that made sense at all because I did have trouble formulating this somewhat.

Tbh, if you spend most of your waking hours on tumblr, you probably have something.

as someone on tumblr , I cannot overemphasize how true this is.

Even if you don't going in, you sure as hell will after a few weeks.

Admittedly I have an anxiety disorder anyway so it was a really unwise decision on my part to cave in to the pressure, but when that place started giving me panic attacks it was time to back off.

tumblr is probably how they deal with depression tbh

Depression is one of the most common (maybe THE most common, idk) mental illnesses someone can have. Virtually everyone will have a depressive episode (I think that's the term?) at some point in their lives, and teens and twenty-somethings are at an especially high risk for it because of all of the major life changes they're likely to be going through.

Not only is the end of puberty causing all sorts of chaos on their body and mood, they're also dealing with the huge shift from being a kid to being an adult. For many of them, they're going from having virtually no responsibility beyond 'put the dishes in the dishwasher and do your homework every day' to 'balance college with a part-time job, hobbies, and trying to figure out just who the fuck you are as a person now that the world looks at you as a grown-up'. Obviously some people manage all that while remaining happy as a clam, but just speaking from personal experience all of my friends dealt with a lot of depression for much of high school and into their twenties.

It's not that they were snowflakes. It's that shit's tough to deal with.

But it's meant to be tough shit to deal with. It's completely normal and it's a perfectly normal and understandable reaction. I wouldn't necessarily call every single person who has trouble dealing with those things "depressed" though.

But that's the issue with needing to label and medicate everything, even normal and expected human responses to stressors, rather than instill better coping and resilience.

But that's not clinical depression. That's the normal experience of growing up.

It's kind of a safe haven for people who are struggling in general.

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