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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-12-17 06:51 pm

[ SECRET POST #2906 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2906 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2014-12-18 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
"The fantasy is rooted in reality"

But it's not the same as reality. In a rape fantasy, you are 100% in control. In real life rape, it's the other way around. That's the important difference.

I have rape fantasies myself where I imagine raping men - either as a man, woman or something else (machine, alien, tentacle creature, etc). But it's all fantasy. There's zero chance I'll go out and really do it. In fact, I'm even less likely since I've got my kicks already just imagining it.

I understand how you might feel anxiety having rape fantasies. I probably feel less anxiety than you do because the likelihood of me acting on my fantasies (turning into a tentacle monster and raping a man) is so tiny that no one would seriously expect me to.

On the other hand, the chances of any given woman being raped is 1 in 7, I believe, so there's a chance that you could be raped in real life (or already have). Although the fantasy of rape and the sordidness of real life rape is completely different, they go by the same name, so yes, that would be much more worrying.

Keep well. :)

(Anonymous) 2014-12-20 05:33 am (UTC)(link)
Can we stop saying "rape fantasy"?

You're not fantasizing about being raped. Because you cannot enjoy being raped. That is the distinguishing point between consensual and nonconsensual sex.

Calling it a "rape fantasy" gives more fuel to rape apologists saying things like "girls really want it deep down because LOOK SO MANY HAVE FANTASIES ABOUT BEING RAPED so how are the men supposed to know that no REALLY means no and not 'oh nooo~ no~~~~'???"

It's a ravishment fantasy. It's a submission fantasy. It's a "I want you to just dominate me" fantasy.

"Rape fantasy" is an oxymoron.