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Guy I'm seeing came over last night and we had sex 4 times and only used a condom once. I know withdrawing (if done right) can be nearly as effective as a condom so I didn't think too much of it (and he withdrew each time for certain) but now that I'm alone with my thoughts I'm feeling a little paranoid. I don't think the risk is great enough to warrant coughing up $50-60 for emergency contraception but I'll be spending the rest of the month vaguely worrying about it. :(

Holy shit,that is expensive.It is like 12 euro here or something.

That being said,it is probably cheaper than an abortion. Maybe you should consider it still - ask your beau to pay half?

I would go nuts with worry.

He said he would help me pay but he's being kinda dodgy about the whole thing which is amplifying my worry for some reason.

I'm thinking I'll go pick some up tomorrow since I have to go to the store anyway. Worst case scenario is I throw it up and have to buy another.

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Don't use the pull out method.

What the hell are they teaching you in schools these days.

Edited 2015-01-03 00:33 (UTC)

apparently that it is "nearly as effective as a condom"

I would venture a guess that schools in op's corner of the world have a lot of teen pregnancies

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a_potato - 2015-01-03 01:08 (UTC) - Expand

That guy sound's like a real fucking winner. 8/

Still cheaper than an abortion or raising a child, and I'd definitely play it safe and get the morning after pill. Even if the guy washed his dick carefully after each time you had sex, there's still a chance that some lucky sperm remained there.

If your worrying about it, get the damn abortion pill and get it over with.

Except the morning after pill is not the same as an abortion pill.

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Remind him about potential child support and go for that contraception :C Better safe than sorry, as all the alternatives will cost loads the longer you wait.

Get the pill. Swimmers get out long before actual ejaculation.

SA
* start getting out.

Do it anyway, i'd say. 50 is worth peace of mind for the next 4 weeks.

I'm assuming in this scenario you're both only having sex with each other and have had all of your STI testing done?

If not, it might be time to start worrying about that instead.

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I gotta jump on the "go ahead and get the emergency contraception" bandwagon.

Also, why did you only use a condom the one time?

if the money is the actual issue, go to planned parenthood and they will probably give you a discount on the morning-after pill or whatever, but jesus christ wear a fucking condom or get on some kind of birth control. the PP website even has a thing that helps you figure out the best kind for you

Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, so why would you even take the risk by using withdrawing as a birth control method? That's the craziest thing I've ever heard. EVER. I'm 44, and since I was in elementary school, we were told to never count on that method. What are they teaching you in school these days?

Joining the chorus of "just buy the pill" - it'll ease your mind and you never know, if you don't, you might be looking at a terrible, costly situation if you ARE pregnant.

visit your gyno.

get on the pill. some are cheap (like $9).

if you continue on the path you're on now, you WILL get pregnant.

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(Anonymous) - 2015-01-03 03:06 (UTC) - Expand

"I know withdrawing (if done right) can be nearly as effective as a condom..."

*shakes head* This is how people end up pregnant or surprise daddies and they're so, so shocked it happened to them.

Uh, I cough up the money for the pill every time. You should really go on the daily pill if you are having sex that often without a condom.

The pull out method is terrible, so unless you really want a baby right now, I would recommend getting that emergency pill ASAP. Condom all the way. They still enjoy it, don't be lazy.

Oh god, get the morning after pill ASAP. Also, don't sleep with that guy again. If he's dodgy about making sure you aren't pregnant, then he'll run like a limp dicked coward if you actually do end up pregnant.

Some clarifications:

My partner wasn't being dodgy about the payment or the EC itself, but he was scheduled to spend time with me earlier and he never showed up which I irrationally attributed to my worries about our sex. We've since talked about it (his plans changed and he forgot to tell me, which... he does sometimes), and he has given me money to cover the EC.
I was practicing natural family planning by charting my ovulation (while I wait for my appointment to get Depo). Yes I am aware it's not foolproof; no BC or any sort is. The reason I didn't supplement this with condoms every time is because I ran out unexpectedly, and I insisted it was okay to go without one. He didn't mind either way and made absolutely sure I wanted to go without one so I'm to blame for the choice.
I've done my research and know what I was getting into. I know my odds and risks. I made my choices after weighing all my options and at the time I thought I would be content in those choices but have since decided I would rather be safe than sorry. Even so, I only made the choices I did because the risk of pregnancy was low enough that I found it negligible. Between then and now I decided I'd rather further lower my chances by getting EC because if I get pregnant I know I would terminate. Anyway, as the title suggests I was just venting about what I ultimately decided was not the optimal decision.

Jesus, people who are as dumb as you are should be sterilized. Thank god abortion is legal.

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This here reminds me of one of the earliest pieces of advice I ever got from my mother (I think I was 10 at the time?): Never trust a man with the BC, he's not the one who can get pregnant.

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