[ SECRET POST #2923 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2923 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

07. http://i.imgur.com/lDGxRkO.png

[cushlamochree]

Well, unless you actually condemned someone to hell, comparing yourself to Dream is probably a liiiiitle over exaggerated. That said, I think there are things we all regret, it's just part of being human.

[(Anonymous)]

I did something similar last year. I cut off ties with a group that was clearly becoming detrimental to my mental health. I didn't really do it in a nasty or dramatic way, just said I'd had enough of the toxic atmosphere and that I'd stop posting anything.

I know some people felt kind of abandoned, and there are still some genuinely sweet people who had nothing to do with the horrible stuff to whom I sometimes feel like I owe a better explanation, but since the people I still have issue with were 'mutuals' it's not that easy.

I don't worry that they'd think I was a bitch, but I do worry they'd think I was being overreacting and kind of pathetic to let things get to me the way they did.

[lb_lee]

It's okay, Anon. I left one of my main sites in the fall, and I remember worrying a little, because I had friends there and also a bunch of my business came from there. It really was a case of a few bad apples spoiling the barrel.

The problem was, one of the bad apples was a mod.

I left after two incidents, both involving transphobia. I wondered if I was just being a bullshit political about it, but yesterday found out that no, apparently said mod thought I was a girl the whole time, and that things got even WORSE after I left. And my friends still follow me and gave me their emails, when they aren't commenting anon on my LJ, so it turns out I did the smart thing after all!

TL;DR, it's okay to leave a place if it's toxic. There's plenty of playgrounds on the Net!

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I'm sorry you had to deal with that, and I'm glad it seems to be working out for you!

I did give my email to a few people, but I don't think they're the email types so we've pretty much lost touch, and I feel bad because I'm the one who left the avenues they're more active in. I feel as though I'm making demands on them keeping the contact going, when I'm the one who left and for reasons they might deem petty or trivial, or even non-existent, because they didn't have the same issues I did, and still have some hero-worshipping going on for the people I had to get away from. It's probably better to let the contact slide than have to continue the bullshit that made me leave in the first place, albeit on a smaller scale.

I know I did what I had to do for my mental health at the time, but it's hard venturing into any new playground for now. :(

[lb_lee]

Yeah, I hear that. I have yet to last in ANY community, online or off, for more than a couple years. It doesn't end in fire and opera that often (though it has once or twice) but yeah.

You can take a break from the playground. There's nothing wrong with that.

[(Anonymous)]

Man, if you're relating to Dream, things must be rough. I hope you have someone to talk to.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't hate Hagrid, but I do hate it when West Country accents are equated with lack of intelligence or education, and unfortunately his bumbling-and-not-very-bright characterization played into that.

[(Anonymous)]

I shouldn't be amused that this comment is a misfire, but I am.

[(Anonymous)]

Unlike the Endless, you are not a universal constant. You can evolve and change.