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fandomsecrets2015-01-04 03:55 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #2923 ⌋
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Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
(Anonymous) 2015-01-05 01:43 am (UTC)(link)I'm not trying to claim any knowledge on what happened, but her responsibility in this may be questionable based on an obvious power dynamic, and potentially her fear for her own safety?
Just something to think about before you ruin the woman's life. She may well be as much a victim as anyone else.
Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
Also, avoiding TMI but trust me. This was NOT a woman who was afraid for her safety. The last incident I have records of, the perp was physically infirm, with a weak heart, and actively needed her help to be able to perform the act he did. She was the one who go the kid into an isolated area and held the kid down.
He's been dead for ten years. Any hold he had over her should've long gave way to moral decency. I have all the respect in the world for my fellow rape victims, but not when they feed children to a dying pedophile.
Furthermore, her life is not going to get ruined, because all I've got is people's stories, all from ten years ago or older. The trail's long dead, the main perp is dead, and frankly, nobody in the family cares. So this woman's life is going to be just fine. She's not even going to get investigated, unless there's something else going on I don't know about.
The only reason I'm reporting her, knowing nothing will be done, is because she's a teacher, and because goddammit, I don't want anything else happening to any more kids. Nobody in this family has reported the guy, or even warned future generations.
Sorry, but I'm getting pretty angry here. You do not know what my family is, but trust me when I say: it's uglier than I'm saying.
Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
(Anonymous) 2015-01-05 03:05 am (UTC)(link)I'm sorry that you're going through this. I had to testify to the police a few months ago about a rapist who sexually harassed me after he raped one of my friends. It was awful and stressful, but I'm glad that I did it for her sake, and for the sake of getting him far away from other women.
I know it's hard but you're doing the right thing.
Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
Part of me wonders why I'm bothering, since I know nothing is going to happen. But I have to do SOMETHING. Someone has to.
Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
(Anonymous) 2015-01-05 10:04 am (UTC)(link)Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
On the plus side, I DO think I was able to actually make something happen by using a far less official, but far more effective tool: PEER PRESSURE.
That aunt lives in a cul-de-sac surrounded by a bunch of my other relatives, so I called them up and blew the whistle on her over the holidays, when EVERYONE comes down together. I told them what she did, and not to leave her alone with any of the children.
Even if they don't believe me, I'd like to think I upset them enough to at least WATCH her. It's not like it takes much effort, and once that doubt has been put in your head...
Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
(Anonymous) 2015-01-06 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)First of all: I'm so sorry you have to go through this, and I hope things turn out for the best.
Secondly: Peer pressure can do a hell of a lot.
When my mom was young her cousin and cousinchildren were murdered by the cousin's husband in a fire. The only reason he didn't get away with it was because he got too drunk to get out in time, so he died with them.
The asshole was apparently charismatic as fuck, because even with the police OUTRIGHT SAYING he did it (his car contained all the evidence) people still claimed it was a tragic accident. Between my mom, her other cousins, and the local gossip snatching up other things he'd done... Well, some never stopped believing it was just slander, but it got harder for them to deny the truth. At the very least they stopped trying to defend him openly.
Re: What are you NOT looking forward this year?
Peer pressure is HELLA powerful. I figure, it was enough to keep the old man safe for fifty years, I damn well better be able to wrench it to my benefit with a few phone calls. That said, I'm thousands of miles away from any of my relatives (thank GOD) so have limited influence. It's just as well; it means they have limited influence ON ME.
And eesh, that's a terrible thing to happen. My condolences, Anon.