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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-01-06 06:39 pm

[ SECRET POST #2925 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2925 ⌋

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[personal profile] lb_lee 2015-01-07 03:38 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah. And at the same time, it bothers me that there's sorta this... presumption that somehow being queer will magically make all this easier for a guy. It's just kind of a mess, and it ties into these kind of gross messages and such. Communication is for "less masculine" men, that there's some sacrifice of masculinity at all in communicating or emoting... it's actually pretty toxic!

And I know when I was first coming out, I tried to massively overcompensate by being as big a macho blowhard as possible. It sucked. I'm glad I'm not like that anymore; I was a royal pain in the ass.

(And this might be why in one of the series I write, the sweet femme guy is bi, not pan, and his not-quite-female alien girlfriend is tough as nails and has trouble emoting, while he cries and likes to talk about feelings.)