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⌈ Secret Post #2926 ⌋

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Re: Advice Thread

[(Anonymous)]

It depends. There are times (like anon above) where helping someone else can take you out of your own head for a while and actually alleiviate your own symptoms by putting the focus elsewhere. However there are also times when e.g. there might be too much overlap between your problems and theirs, in which case it ends up fanning the flames for both of you.

Over the past few years I've been trying to help someone with severe anxiety issues, all the while suffering from equally severe anxiety myself and getting very little support back from them. Sometimes it helps put my own feelings into perspective (even if it's only those moments where you're "Hey, I think that same way/do the same thing/have a similar ritual" etc. that helps you feel less alone), and sometimes it can make me ten times worse.

tl:dr, you're not wrong to feel confused because it's a very confusing thing. Unfortunately there's not much you can do except play each situation by ear, and gauge it by whether you feel you're going to benefit or whether it might exacerbate things for you.

But ultimately you need to take care of you at the very least alongside taking care of others. It's like the whole 'fasten your own air mask before helping others with theirs' thing on airplanes.