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⌈ Secret Post #2930 ⌋

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Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

[(Anonymous)]

OP.

I had to hit rock bottom before I could improve. We definitely had a really unhealthy codependency the first time we house shared and I didn't improve until she left. 2nd go was better but having her around all the time made bad things happening worse and having someone be jealous that I was out with friends or dating? It was seriously upsetting.

But there's also just all the history and I don't want to just ditch her? I was really hoping we'd grow apart but I don't think she's realised this is what has happened.

I don't mind her as a casual friend and listening woes but...I'm not a safety net. Took many holes. Wed end up hating each other and she doesn't realise when I tell her we can't live together. I did tell her I really believed it would kill our friendship.

I wish she'd at least TRY finding a new place before running to me/my current housemates.

And it's ridiculous to expect first time parents to have a housemate with No bb experience.
(And honestly they don't like her much. They were major help in pointing out when she was acting like a dick but I ignored cause it was normal)

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

[dethtoll]

I can somewhat relate about the shared history. It's part of why I have trouble ditching some people. But sometimes you gotta reach a point where you have to say, "Stop, enough." This person is toxic and seems like they've been toxic from day 1. She needs to be cut off. It's for her own good, too, but that's secondary to your well-being.

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

[(Anonymous)]

This is so surprisingly difficult to do :( but you all are right. I need to suck it up and nicely say we need to stop being friends.

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

[(Anonymous)]

But there's also just all the history and I don't want to just ditch her?

I see a lot of people saying things like this, whether it's about a friend or an SO that needs to hit the bricks. Continuing to hang around with someone because you have a weird sense of nostalgia about your relationship with them even though they're a toxic dick is never a good idea and I say this from experience. She needs to go and you KNOW she needs to go, because you keep talking about what a needy asshole she is and I honestly can't remember you saying a single positive thing about her in the posts you've made recently (and if you did, it was buried so far under negative things that I just can't recall). Your friendship with her seems all but dead, so you may as well bury it.