[ SECRET POST #2936 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2936 ⌋

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[fscom]

03. http://i.imgur.com/1llCNgp.png

[othellia]

WHO ARE YOU, OP, AND ARE YOU SECRETLY ME? Although in the past couple years, I've finally started liking guys closer to my age range, so that's been... interesting. Celebrities though, they're mostly still all in their late 30's/early 40's.

Honestly though, age gaps in relationships are fine. Like there are some people in my choir that I know where the woman is ten years older than the man and another where the man is twenty years older than the woman and it's all perfectly fine. Like, you'll still have to watch out for creepers/married men lying about their relationship status and just wanting a fling/etc, and you won't be able to just go out to a club and pick up someone there, but you're certainly not doomed to loneliness.

Also, depending whether you live in a city or not, there are usually singles clubs that have members all from 20s/30s/40s. I'm not saying go out and immediately target on to someone, but make friends with all ages and you'll never know. <3

[elaminator]

Eh, it's okay, a lot of people are attracted to others older then them. It happens and you don't really have any control over it; it isn't hurting anything. Age differences aren't for everyone, but nothing is, really.

A lot of the celebrities I find attractive are at least 10 years older than me.

[othellia]

*high fives for Richard Armitage icon*

[elaminator]

Always Armitage. Always.

[othellia]

I once was talking with a work(ish) friend about celebrity crushes and I brought up Richard Armitage. They didn't know who he was at first, so I pull up google images on my phone.

Their response? "Oh he looks like [insert name of my last crush]."

I was just like fffffffffff-

[elaminator]

Haha, I'm curious as to who their last crush was! I can't imagine many guys look like Richard. (Was it someone they knew IRL? They should've been all over that.)

[othellia]

Oh sorry. Pronoun confusion. They said he looked rather like my last crush. As in Othellia's last crush, to use both third person and my screenname to refer to myself.

It was a kind of a not!secret around the work place since I made my intentions kind of known, worked up my courage, asked him out a lunch date, and got rejected (kindly) about a week later. (He's from out-of-state and was only there with his team for three months, so I knew I had a fool's chance going in but then I listened to Defying Gravity and Let It Go a bunch of times and then went for it anyway.)

But yeah, she said that. And then I thought about it. And then I could see the resemblance. And I was like ffffffff- because that only made him more attractive in my eyes and he was already gone by that point.

That was November, so I'm still slowly getting over it. But I only think of him when something briefly triggers it, so I'm taking that as a good sign. :|

[elaminator]

Haha, sorry about that! I had a feeling I had understood that wrong, so I'm not surprised.

That really, really sucks. I'm sorry it didn't work out. It's been a long time, but I've been there. It's kind of a good thing he doesn't work at your office regularly because having him there every day would be a crap reminder.

I hope this experience hasn't made your love for Armitage too awkward or painful. :(

[othellia]

It was kind of a good thing, but also maybe a bad thing? Because he cited the temp situation and ultimate long distance as the reason, or at least one of the reasons, he was not interested. Who knows, maybe he plain wasn't interested and used the distance as an easy excuse, or maybe it was a combination of things. At that point I kind of had been reading signals, but there'd been a couple that'd been mixed, so I figured I'd tell him and know for sure.

And it did help. And because of it I ultimately have no regrets.

So I continue to fawn over Richard Armitage and hope that the next guy I fall for will both share his hotness and be equally interested in me. :]

(Obviously not implying I actively go hunting for Richard Armitage clones. But I will not ignore them should I encounter one again.)

[elaminator]

Awww. :( It must've been bittersweet to hear that and think that one of the reasons he declined was distance. (Which is an understandable reason, but still sucks.) It's probably better than you didn't go out a few times before he left and THEN have him decide he couldn't do a long distance relationship, though. I hope you have better luck next time.

But I will not ignore them should I encounter one again.

Pfft, I would question your sanity if you did. (JK, JK, but...you know.)

[othellia]

Yeah, he seemed happy when I'd initially asked him if he wanted to grab lunch with me sometime. He wasn't shocked as though my ask had come completely from left field and his face was positive and he accepted. So a part of me thinks that if he'd been 100% disinterested, he would have made some excuse about being busy and not even bothered with the lunch date.

And I think that's what threw me in the end, because we did go on the lunch date, and we talked for an hour straight with no gaps in the conversation whatsoever... and then he just didn't talk to me afterwards. So... yeah. Mixed signals.

I mean, it ultimately doesn't matter now and who knows his true feelings, but for my own personal ego's sake, I'm going to take your sentence and make myself a head canon that he was somewhat interested but then decided at the last minute he couldn't do the long distance thing and that I'm totally fabulous and the whole nine yards.

ETA: Thanks for listening to my emotional ramblings, btw. <3

[(Anonymous)]

HOW many secrets have we gotten so far that are all "I like older guys, I'm so weird!"

I'm starting to feel weird because I DON'T like older guys.

[(Anonymous)]

I do crush on older men and younger guys, whereas I find men my own age to be "meh".

[(Anonymous)]

I've been kind of the same my whole life, OP, so obviously I'm biased but I don't find it freakish at all. I think it's less unusual for women in their 20s, tbh.

[lb_lee]

Don't worry about it OP. I don't tend to go for guys THAT much older, but still, older. And I have the stupidest, most ridiculous reason for it too, which I promise is probably more absurd than yours.

(My reason: I have a younger brother. Said younger brother looks like EVERY WHITE TWINK IN GAY PORN EVER. A bigger buzzkill there never was.)

[(Anonymous)]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[lb_lee]

Seriously, I even tested this by giving a friend a photo of my brother.

Her response: "Dude, are you sure he doesn't have a career in porn and just never told you?"

And this is why I can't watch a whole lot of gay porn. I keep wanting to tell the poor boys WHAT ARE YOU DOING YOU SHOULD BE IN SCHOOL. (It doesn't matter that my brother is now twenty-five, and likely so are most of those actors. I still get the exact same response. In my mind, my brother will always be like, a teenager who needs to be in school.)

[(Anonymous)]

Fuckin' Baby Boomers...

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[(Anonymous)]

Image: black and white plaid pattern

Text: I wish I got crushes on characters closer to my own age. Even when I was a kid, I liked characters (usually villains) and actors who were 20-40 years older than me, and I got made fun of in school because I didn’t find anyone cute that the other students found cute.

Now that I’m in my mid-twenties, I thought I would like closer to my age, but I’m still liking the ones in their late 40s-early 60s.

I feel like a freak.

[(Anonymous)]

You are definitely not alone in this, I'm the same way. Fortunately though, it does seem limited to fictional crushes. The few guys I've liked in RL have all been my age, maybe a few years older...Except for when I was younger and 'hot for teacher'. But I prefer not to think about that too much.

[(Anonymous)]

Some people are attracted to older guys, some to younger guys. It's just how it is. For me it just depends on the guy.

[(Anonymous)]

don't worry now that you're in your 20's it's totally normal.

not normal as in everyone like's guys at least 20 years older than them, but like if you point out a guy in his 50's as being hot most people aren't going to think anything of it and more than a handful would agree

[(Anonymous)]

Right there with you, OP.

[kittenmommy]

I'm very happily married for 20 years now to a man 20+ years my senior.

There's nothing wrong with you, OP. We love who we love.