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Congratulations! (Since you seem happy.) :)

One word of advice - don't let random people (including family) tell you 'birth' stories. Most of them, for so fucked up reason, want to tell really horrible ones about how they were in labor for five days and almost died or whatever. It's...bizarre.

And, just to offset that - I was in labor for about six hours and had mine at home, no drugs. So don't believe the horror hype!

(Tabaqui - my hd is toast, i'm on a borrowed tablet.)

Oh man...I actually had some people start sharing horrible birth stories back when I mentioned that I was just thinking of having a kid. o.O It really is quite bizarre.

My cousin-in-law, however, loved being pregnant and had a very easy delivery, so I figure if I'm ever feeling like I'm getting bombarded with too much negative information, I can always hit her up and be like, "remind me how awesome this is!"

And, thank you, both for the congrats and for the words of advice/positive story! :)

Sounds like a good idea! People tend to look at my like i'm nuts when i tell them home birth/no drugs, but i hate hospitals, and my doc said it was no big if i wanted, so - why wouldn't i? Nothing like laying down in your own bed after and going to sleep. :)

Also - it's perfectly okay if you can't breastfeed! Or don't want to! Don't let anyone freak you out about *that*, either.

That does sound lovely! I'm not sure if I want to do a home birth, but I definitely want to avoid drugs, and I definitely don't want to do the standard "lying on your back" thing, since from everything I've read over the years, that is the absolute worst way for a human female to give birth. So, who knows.

And thanks for the preemptive reassurance on that front! People do seem to get really weird (and judgmental) about the whole breastfeeding thing. But, dammit, I was raised on formula, and *blah blah 15 miles through 15 feet of snow uphill both ways blah blah* And the research on whether one or the other is substantively better seems to be inconclusive, anyway.

:/

Not to come off as one of those "judgemental" people, Tates... but you know I can't resist when someone has health information needs.

Actually if you are able to breast feed there are a great many positive health benefits- mainly in the quality of antibodies and other immune factors your baby will have for the period of time postnatally where (s)he is not yet able to produce them. It is very immunoprotective for a child throughout early development even to do so for just a little while. There is some research I have heard that suggests it also affects immune response later in life, but I would have to dig that up again to find out the theory there.

That said, nutritional adequacy for either method does not differ significantly, and a baby that is eating >>>>>>>> a baby that isn't eating. I'd still encourage breast feeding if you can tolerate it/sustain it, at least for a few weeks or months.

No worries, herpy, I'll never begrudge the sharing of information. :) The people I think of as "judgmental" are the ones who make assumptions and actively give women shit (and they can get pretty nasty about it), as well as the folks who treat women who can't breastfeed as if they're freaks.

In any case, part of the reason for me saying what I did is that I'd recently come across some studies whose results posed a bit of a challenge. One of them found that, when one controls for socioeconomic factors, almost all of the apparent protective benefits of breastfeeding disappear (IIRC, the only benefit that seemed to hold related to rates of asthma). Another found that breastfeeding conferred substantially greater benefits when compared to formula based on cow's milk, but not when compared to other types of formula.

It's a bit of a moot point, anyway, because I plan to breastfeed if I'm able. But if, for some reason, I'm not able to, I don't intend to let anyone make me feel lesser for it.

I wouldn't dream of lecturing someone for something they might not be able to control, but I do think people should be aware that one is a better option than the other. However, I also understand that it can be a sensitive issue and that there's a definite tendency for parents to criticize other parents in ways that are completely reprehensible, though. This extends to all parenting decisions, but people get particularly rabid about choices regarding health in infancy (eg. breast feeding, circumcision).

If you ever want a more neutral perspective based in science, that's what I usually try to provide for people. I try to stay up to date on most studies... allergy precautions, for example, have changed drastically in the past five years- whereas physicians used to believe that in order to prevent a child from developing peanut allergies one should withhold products containing peanuts until later in development, there is now information that suggests the opposite is true, and that withholding peanuts increases the likelihood of developing allergies.

But I'm not a parent, so I suppose that takes the personal investment part of it out of the equation.

Do not destroy the pleasure I derive from telling my awful pregnancy stories, bb!

*g*

(I do get a certain amount of satisfaction from commiserating with people who also had similar experiences but not from scaring people who are doing this for the first time LOL)

Heee!
Commiserating, I get. But man - way too many people with the 'lets tell horror stories and laugh a t the expectant mom!!' deal. I just don't get it!

*smooch*
*me, Tabaqui*

Yeah, I don't get the whole glee at terrifying people. LOL

*smooch smooch*

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