[ SECRET POST #2944 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2944 ⌋

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1=not dumb right?

[(Anonymous)]

'Cause it's really smart. It sounds like you're already considering going to center yourself, and it sounds like a great idea. If nothing else but to get a feel for what kind of help they can give you.

I know kallanda_lee expressed displeasure at having someone talk about her to a psychologist, but I think that's going to happen, regardless - most of our troubles will stem from interactions with people, and so that kind of discussion is bound to happen. You're not experiencing increasing stress in a vacuum. A huge part of your stress stems from your roommate's street. If you feel like you'd be talking to a shrink about her behind her back, I recommend trying to think of it more as you're trying to resolve your own issues, and because part of those issues involve your roommate you're trying to figure out how to manage them for yourself with regards to your interactions with her. ...Does that make sense, or did it just get really twisty? Lemm see if I can redo (just in case):
-big part of stress stems from roommate issues
-that roommate's stress is what's causing your stress is less the point, just that there is tension
-talk to psychologist about how to manage your own responses
-not how to help your roommate better
-because you're not a shirnk, and you can't
-you're talking about your roommate *because* you're trying to figure your own shit out so you don't lose your shit at her, or anyone else (including self)

It sounds cold-hearted, but stop trying to help your roommate. It's causing you trouble, and it's not helping anyway. She'll be neurotic about her test scores whether or not you respond, and she may be looking for attention and fishing for those compliments (without necessarily being aware, let alone malicious about it), so the more you try to make her feel better the further and faster she spirals.

That's not to say ignore her and her distress, but give her one line of a boost and go back to your own paper.

You really do sound like a compassionate person, but we have to take care of ourselves before we can take of anyone else. Don't forget that.