[ SECRET POST #2945 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2945 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Not a Harem Heaven, It's a Yandere Hell]


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[Game of Thrones]


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[In the Flesh]


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[Hudson Leick as Callisto in Xena, Warrior Princess]


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[Plebcomics]


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[Great British Bake Off]


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[Captain America: The First Avenger]


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[Binan Koukou Chikyuu Bouei-bu LOVE!]


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[Queen]













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Comments

tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

second comment

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

Would anyone happen to have any research resources for victims of child abuse who are specifically extroverted? Sounds weird I know, but someone close to me is going through a very rough patch and all the readings I have are about victims who are primarily introverted and while they've helped her a little, most of these readings are lacking to her. Reason why I specify "extroverted" is because she basically wants to know why she ticks the way she does. Her coping mechanisms and thought processes are different enough where most of the stuff I have don't help her battle her demons that well.

Re: tw child abuse

[lb_lee]

Hmmm. I might have some resources, but it depends on the type of abuse. I have a good book on recovering from sexual abuse called Healing Sex, and a couple books on incest and PTSD, which focus specifically on the building blocks of recovery. You got anything specific, anon?

--Rogan

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

She's a survivor of physical and emotional abuse. Her father was a physically and emotionally abusive alcoholic and her mother was emotionally abusive in that she was very controlling. :( So while those sound like good recs I don't think they'd help my friend out as she wasn't sexually abused (far as she knows anyway, she's told me many times she doesn't have a good handle on her childhood memories).

Re: tw child abuse

[lb_lee]

Hmmm, let's see. Physical abusive and alcoholism aren't my bailiwicks, but I might still have some useful stuff, let me see...

'Toxic Parents' by Susan Forward is pretty good, and I don't think it much matters whether you're extroverted or not. It mostly focuses on how to handle the parents themselves, especially if you're still struggling with whether to keep a relationship with them or not.

Some folks I know swear by Survivor to Thriver: Manual and workbook for adult survivors of child abuse who want to move-on with life, but I haven't used it myself so can't vouch. On the plus side, it's free!

And then there's Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, which is mostly intended for partners, but might be useful for figuring out the father's thought process and why he does what he does. Worth a shot, and the PDF is a little buggy formatting wise but still perfectly readable.

Hope that helps!

--Rogan

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

I'll propose these to her and see what she makes of them. Got my fingers crossed, thank you!

Re: tw child abuse

[lb_lee]

No problem! Glad to be useful, sorry that I don't have more.

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

Oh man, I wish I could help, but I don't. Maybe try outofthefog? That was one of the resources that pointed my awareness towards the results of my abuse and reasons why one led to the other, but I'm a more stereotypical victim, so I didn't look for anything on extroversion. They may have something about it, though.

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you I'll definitely have a look!

Re: tw child abuse

[herpymcderp]

I... don't know. Most of the time I don't really like to suggest any book until I know whether or not someone is in a comfortable and stable enough place mentally that reading about something they experienced wouldn't just unwittingly undo whatever progress they'd managed to make.

PTSD is tricky like that.

I hope your friend is getting some useful therapy, OP.

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

This is a very good point that slipped my mind, damn, but thank you for bringing it up. As for therapy, well, after a long and hellish year she's at least finally admitted to herself that the abuse happened. That's progress.

Re: tw child abuse

[herpymcderp]

You seem very invested in being a solid support for your friend and it's really great that you want to be proactive about their recovery... but.. Right now the best thing to do is probably to be there to listen to them when they want to talk about whatever they want to talk about: how much they hate/love their therapist, how much their situation sucks, etc.

You're already doing more than you know.

Re: tw child abuse

[(Anonymous)]

Good point taken. I'll hold my horses and be more patient. I don't know about that "doing more than I know" thing, but I'll keep it mind the next time I get anxious about her situation so thanks.