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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-02-06 06:55 pm

[ SECRET POST #2956 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2956 ⌋

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Re: How strongly connected do you feel to your gender?

[personal profile] nyxelestia 2015-02-07 03:32 am (UTC)(link)
This is pretty much me. I could do without the reproductive system annoyances (I can't WAIT until I can get a hysterectomy). I feel no particular fondness for clothes or make-up, but do care about looking good, so if I suddenly turned into a guy overnight, I'd pretty much just dress in a way that would make me look good in my new body. (Even now, some of my clothes are unisex or men's clothes I look good in - so if I were a guy, I'd have a mostly-male-catered wardrobe, but probably some women's clothes or accessories I happen to look good in).

I think that the sensation of safety and/or lack thereof is pretty much on level with a guy's. What little nervousness I do occasionally feel is more about my size than my gender (in that I think if I had the same height and weight as a guy as I do now, I'd probably still have the same amount of fear). Otherwise, I've spent a good portion of my life walking down dark streets in the middle of the night without a problem, while everyone else around me freaks the fuck out about it. In many ways, I've actually found it safer - it's easier for me to hide from a potential attacker in the dark, and most violent crime people experience comes from people they know in "safe" environments, especially rape (the one crime women are at greater threat of than men). I know it's faulty logic and doesn't quite work that way, but it sure felt like that at times.

At most, a lot of my identity is fighting as an underdog and railing against the majority, including the patriarchy. But I'm a bisexual, non-white, first-generation American Atheist, so while being male would take away a huge portion of my minority identity, I would still mostly be a lot of looked-down-upon minority characteristics. It wouldn't be THAT dramatic of a difference, especially since my parents were feminists even before I was born.
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Re: How strongly connected do you feel to your gender?

[personal profile] kallanda_lee 2015-02-07 09:57 am (UTC)(link)
With me, it's not something many people expect, because I do present female - though, physically, I totally do think I'm on even playing field. The funny thing is, that I'd be much more "average" if I were a man, regarding things like height, or shoe size than as a woman. I don't even feel safe because I think I won't get harassed, just because I'm arrogant enough to believe I can take them on (which, I actually have done on two occasions).I'm the kind of kid who got bullied at school, but learned to punch back.

My identity is more linked to my experiences and my mind than physical characteristics anyway.