[ SECRET POST #2958 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2958 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Counterpoint

[(Anonymous)]

Dude, settle. I met the person I married when I was 20, and that's not unusual. All I'm saying is if she sees a future with him, they need to deal with their issues. If she doesn't, then yeah, break up.

Re: Counterpoint

[chardmonster]

There's a big difference between meeting someone at 20 (common!) and going to couples therapy at 21 (big glaring warning sign).

Re: Counterpoint

[(Anonymous)]

Some people have an easier time talking out their issues (individual and mutual) with an impartial third party to dictate the proceedings. These two don't sound like they do the "direct communication" thing very well, so I was offering a suggestion on the basis that she'd like to stay together with him but she's able to voice exactly what's wrong or what they can each do to help. There's nothing wrong with seeking help, and I honestly, desperately wish there wasn't such a massive stigma on it.

And of course, breaking up is still an option. You're right that 21 is young. But I worry that without working through these things, OP will find herself in a string of similar, unhappy relationships.

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[(Anonymous)]

DA. They aren't in therapy as far as we know it was just a suggestion by anon if they want help (I also don't think we should see therapy as a warning sign when really more couples should try it and it's a positive thing that people want to work on their relationships.)

I mean I agree that there are some red flags I see but you are jumping from "warning sign" to "dump him now" which is a huge leap when all you know about the situation is a small chunk of a story about people none of us know.

Some issues can be worked through and some can't, but I don't want to jump to the conclusion that their relationship is doomed when none of us really know the OP or their boyfriend.