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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-02-09 04:55 pm

[ SECRET POST #2959 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2959 ⌋

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Re: Complaining thread

(Anonymous) 2015-02-10 08:35 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm going to go against the grain here and wonder if you're choosing your battles at all, or bringing up every little grievance to your sister. I don't think it's a mystery why your sister might try to shut you down. Dealing with someone else's issues about being hurt (valid or invalid, doesn't matter) is emotionally draining and fraught with tension. Some people just don't want to deal, especially if they're not sure what you want from them. What DO you want from your sister? Have you told her what you want in succinct terms? If you haven't, then all she's getting a big ol' Wall of Text for all her perceived wrongdoings. Nobody enjoys that.

The problem here is that people in this thread cannot really tell if you're calling your sister out on legit issues or if you're the kind of person who sits people down and says something like, "You know the other day when you had an egg salad sandwich, it really hurt me because you know how I feel about battery farms and the cruelty of non-free range eggs" and then sitting back expecting the other person to beg for forgiveness.

I'm not saying you're that person, mind you. I'm just saying that we don't know what your issues with her are, so it's premature to side with you automatically. That said, maybe it's for the best you're not close.

Re: Complaining thread

(Anonymous) 2015-02-10 10:23 pm (UTC)(link)
I appreciate that you're playing devil's advocate here, but it seems unnecessary. No, I'm not the person. Hence why I held my silence and lived by her rules until she did something I could no longer overlook. I then sent her a concise but clear message about my issue.

However, I thought it was obvious from my original post that that was what happened. To be quite honest, you seem to be reaching with your comment.