[ SECRET POST #2960 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2960 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Relationship woes.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know where to start honestly. My SO doesn't have the greatest connection to her family. And we were stuck living with them after we graduated. They're the type of people who pretend no problems exist, to the extent of lying about being aggravated by any issues. The only person in her family who has an ounce of honesty in addressing issues is her mom, but it still brings a lot of unresolved tension. Her father hates me and has constantly thrown barbed insults that her uncle made me aware of. All because I exist and in his opinion "spend all my time on Facebook". Her parents don't have the healthiest relationship either; her mom has fibromyalgia and gets in moods and will sometimes insult her father and he'll just scowl at her and say nothing. I mean, I've accepted that I will never be accepted by him, even though I pay my bills, work over fifty hours a week in a job that pays more than his daughter and relates to the major I graduated with, constantly cook and clean, and supported my SO when they were in depressive episodes. But whatever, I'm the guy who posts too much on Facebook once a week.

And she doesn't have the greatest relationship with her mother either. Her mom will try to address and issue, albeit in an aggravated tone, and she'll take it as her mother seeing her as worthless. It's gotten to the point where every time they have an argument she'll go to our room and start hitting a pillow out of frustration and shout about how stupid she is. And she's so smart and kind that it's hard seeing her like this, and I KNOW her mom doesn't think such bad things of her, but she keeps perceiving it that way.

Point is, living in this house has brought a lot of tension in our relationship. Both with the unwelcome attitude from her parents and how she's beginning to take it out on me and how it's my fault for something they're angry at. We're looking at places that are cheap enough for us to move out, but I'm starting to wonder if it's worth it. She'll sometimes get so depressed that she'll talk about how we should take a break or end our relationship because of miniscule issues she kept bottled up inside instead of just telling me so we could resolve it at the time. Then a few days later she'll go back to being happy and seeing a future with me.

I'm almost worn out. Part of me wants to run from this, and another wants to get her some help and be by her side supporting her because I love her. And another fucked up, insecure part of me that I keep secret doesn't want to give things up with her because I'm afraid her dad is right and that I am worthless like he's been saying and that she will find someone better than me who makes her happier.

TL;DR - I'm fucked up. Other people around me are fucked up. And this is a fucked up situation.

Re: Relationship woes.

[(Anonymous)]

That is fucked up and I'm sorry. I hope you two find better accommodations soon, but I think it's worth noting that even if you do, her family is still going to be an issue (just not as in your face) if you guys are in a long term relationship. Sounds like your GF could use some therapy to deal with her parental baggage, and you both maybe need to work on a mutually supportive game plan to deal with her parents while you're still under their roof.