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⌈ Secret Post #2961 ⌋

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[Alexander Siddig/Star Trek; Deep Space 9/Vertical Limit/Poirot/24]

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[Transformers: Fall of Cybertron]

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There are some men that write slash. There are a lot of women that write slash - why would they be any less prone to trying out anal sex than the general population? [Among adults aged 25–44, 36% of women a ever had anal sex with an opposite-sex partner. From Sexual Behavior, Sexual Attraction, and Sexual Identity in the United States: Data From the 2006–2008 National Survey of Family Growth]

I'm female. I've written slash and done anal stuff. I've also read Minotaur's sex tips.

The funny thing is, you can have all kinds of sexual experience and it can be different from what others have experienced. And I'm not talking about anatomy fail (though some people don't have typical anatomy), I'm talking about lube (yes, sometimes actual people use not-so-great substitutes for lube and they don't end up horribly damaged) or stretching (sometimes, actual people are fine without it) or sensations or whatever.

I've read Minotaur's tips! They're great if you bear in mind that he's just one guy and opinions and experiences may vary.

Yeah. It's not that easy to tell from someone's writing if they have experience in it. Their experience might be different from yours or they might just have trouble translating it into their writing.

I wonder if the age demographic for a significant proporion of slash fic writers has some bearing on it?

25-44 is definitely a minority age group in most slashy fandoms I'm in. I'd say the majority of fic writers are 18-24 or thereabouts. Now I'm randomly curious about the stats for that age group, because on the one hand there's the argument that men are finding porn more and more accessible at a younger age, and so the demands they make of their girlfriends become influenced by the things they see (including M/F anal sex being standard procedure, almost always decpicted with zero prep at all).

Maybe I'm just old, but I'd sort of expect most 18 year old slash fic writers to be anal sex virgins, male or female. If it's 36% for the older age group, I'd expect it to be less for the younger group.

Agreed also about differences between what people experience, which is why I tend to look askance at "omg this was totally wrong, it was nothing like the way I do it!" complaints. I know men who need a serious amount of prep to get them ready, and some that haven't do it in years. Either of those groups would read a fic featuring the other thinking "This is nothing like my own personal experience!" but that doesn't make it incorrect.

ayrt

This is the report I pulled the number from: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf. They have data for both males and females from 15-44. For females from 15-17 it's 7%, 18-19 it's about 15%, and 20-24 it's about 30%.

Yeah, just because it's not in your experience doesn't mean it's wrong. If it seems at all plausible, it's probably happened to someone. Hell, sometimes even if it seems totally improbable, it's happened. Truth is stranger than fiction.

AYRT

Interesting, thank you! Those stats definitely match both what I'd have guessed and my general (and probably limited) anecdotal evidence.

Related back to OP's secret, it... kind of stands to reason that most of the people writing fanfic about butt sex would not have had butt sex, and especially true of fandoms that skew younger. Considering general fannish demographics, I'm not sure what else they expected, really.

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