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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-02-15 03:44 pm

[ SECRET POST #2965 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2965 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm bitter. I'll totally admit it. I don't just sound bitter -- I *AM* bitter. But then given that bitter means "angry, hurt, or resentful because of one's bad experiences or a sense of unjust treatment" I don't think that's an unreasonable reaction.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:02 pm (UTC)(link)
DA

"Bitter" is another one of those words people use without actually knowing what it means, half the time.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Lol you sound just like the SJWs. 'I am totally justified in acting like a big baby because I've been treated unjustly!'. Grow up.

At least SJWs' boogeyman is ~society~ and not a website.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:21 pm (UTC)(link)
Eh, didn't say I was better than them. I'm not gonna lie -- I did feel hurt by the name-calling, by the dismissal of my experiences, by not feeling welcome in fandom.

I know I'm pathetic -- I have no real friends, no significant other, and so I try to connect with people online.

And so it sucks to not be welcome even there. And so…yeah, I'm bitter.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
NAYRT

I totally sympathize with you here. I am definitely familiar with a lot of those experiences and I completely understand where you're coming from. And I don't think it's wrong to be bitter about it.

But I do think it reaches a point where people on here just auto-dismiss anything from that milieu and I don't think that response makes sense. And, I guess ultimately, I feel like who knows where people in that environment are coming from, and what troubles they have, and who else is just as lonely. And I'd rather try to be as generous as possible towards anyone who's not being an utter ass.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:32 pm (UTC)(link)
agreed. I thought I could at least connect on tumblr, but nope. one false step and I was out.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-16 12:21 am (UTC)(link)
I don't want to be a dick, but I've had multiple arguments on tumblr and they never meant I 'was out'. And I'm talking about serious arguments that lasted for several days. Just because one or two people get mad at you it doesn't mean the whole website automatically hates you. Block the offended parties and go on with your life.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:17 pm (UTC)(link)
You can have a sense of unjust treatment even if the treatment you received was, in fact, just. That would still make you unreasonable.

(Anonymous) 2015-02-15 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, the definition does say a "sense of unjust treatment" not necessarily that it's objectively unjust.

I'm not saying I'm better than them. Just that I'm bitter that something that I wanted to be a part of just ended up making me feel small instead. Even if they were right to treat me that way.