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fandomsecrets2015-02-26 07:06 pm
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[ SECRET POST #2976 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2976 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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(Anonymous) 2015-02-27 02:59 pm (UTC)(link)Bullshit. There's no one set "official" definition of what romance is (other than a loop with romantic, where they just circle back to each other without either giving an actual definition), and the only words I can find associated with it are love and affection, neither of which necessarily implies sexual attraction. People always seem to have a difficult time pinpointing exactly what it is, just that they know it when they feel it, and when people DO come up with some sort of definition, they almost never agree with each other.
That doesn't necessarily translate to having sex, because there are plenty of people who are in romantic relationships but either can't or don't want to have sex for whatever reason. For example, my friend is asexual and in a relationship. She and her girlfriend don't have sex, but she still feels attraction towards her girlfriend and they express it in other physical ways.
People who "can't or don't want to have sex for whatever reason" aren't necessarily asexual. "Does not experience sexual attraction" is the DEFINITION of asexual. If someone DOES experience sexual attraction but doesn't want to have sex for some other reason, they're not asexual, they're celibate.
Feeling strongly for someone but not having any sort of physical attraction to them is just a close friendship. Attraction is how we define the difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic one.
"Physical attraction" is a pretty vague term and just "attraction" could be anything, but you can be attracted to someone's looks and it not be sexual at all. Aesthetic attraction is a thing...you can think someone is nice to look at but not be sexually attracted to them, the same way you can think a painting is nice to look at but not be sexually attracted to it. Or, the same way a straight person can acknowledge someone of the same sex is good-looking but not be sexually attracted to them. So I'm not sure what you're referring to with "attraction is how we define the difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic one" since you didn't specify what type of attraction you're talking about.
Either way, romance does not have to include sexual attraction for everybody. Obviously for you it does, and that's totally valid, but you can't just say THIS IS HOW IT IS when your experience doesn't apply to everybody.
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(Anonymous) 2015-02-27 11:33 pm (UTC)(link)