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[Paul Darrow]

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[Dragon Age: Inquisition]

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(Bee and Puppycat)

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[Noah Emmerich, The Americans]

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I'm serious about this. I'm not ugly, I'm kind of plainly pretty in a china-doll way. I have a very young face and small build, and generally I get treated like a little sister type. I don't have a lot in the way of curves to play up, and while I don't mind makeup, I'm not good at application (my art ability is about as good as a kindergarteners'. Seriously, girls don't just come out of the womb being good at applying makeup.) and generally speaking just a hint too much is enough to make me look like a clown.

What I wear would, on paper seem sexy (pencil skirts, form-fitting sweaters, not too much skin bought not completely shrouded) but on me it just seems normal. I'm starting to wonder if I have to trash up my wardrobe if I ever want a chance at sexy.

So what is it that makes someone sexy? Not personality-wise, that's a whole other issue, but physically? Thoughts?

If you're wanting ways to improve, the best way is probably to just post a picture if you're comfortable with that. You could host it on imgur and delete it later.

I think you're probably going to get a lot of really subjective "what's defined as sexy to me" sort of answers, because it really is a subjective thing.

Sometimes a hint of skin is sexier than the most beautiful lingerie. Sometimes nudity's just nudity and sometimes, with the right smile or the right expression, it's the sexiest thing on the planet.

The first page of results for "sexy" under Google images does absolutely nothing for me. Someone else would think it was the epitome of sexy.

I think it is a lot to do with personality, really. Or at least attitude, and confidence, and playfulness, and a lot of other really hard to define elements that make what you're wearing come into its own as far as sexiness is concerned.

If the physical side of things isn't working for you, demeanor and attitude can make a pretty big difference as well...

This. I think a lot of people who are being honest will say that, while they may find a certain look appealing, sexiness has more to do with presence than look.

THIS. It's all in your head OP. I find myself thinking risque thoughts while wearing fairly conservative (though form fitting) clothing. I think that exudes a certain type of sexiness--but there goes the subjectivity. What do you consider sexy?

I feel there are different kinds. There's classy sexy, blatant in your face unnecessary amounts of exposure sexy (not my kind of sexy, tbh) and many other kinds. I prefer a mysterious vibe of sexy, that wraps itself around the imagination. But that's just me.

But really, it's all in your head. If you feel confident, others will see that, and will find it attractive. Fake it till you make it, become it, or do some soul searching. Or tell yourself you look like [whatever you like] in the mirror in the morning and resist to look in the mirror for the rest of the day. God knows I probably think I look a particular way, while in fact I look nothing like I imagine myself to. Good luck OP.

Posture is pretty important. Keeping your head up, shoulders back, put some swagger in your walk. Enjoy the way your body feels and be comfortable with showing it off.

Young faces often benefit from bold/bold-ish lipstick, because it brings you out of the 'kid sister zone'.

Find your favorite feature and highlight it. If you have pretty eyes, wear a color that brings them out and make sure to look other people in the eyes. Have a nice smile? Smile more. If you have good shoulders, find boatneck shirts.

Oh! And wear cute/sexy underwear. Even if nobody else sees, you are still thinking, "I'm wearing lace under this, and that feels awesome!"

Sorry, there's no way to separate sexiness from attitude. You can wear whatever you want, do whatever you want to your body, but if you don't have that confident/intriguing/come hither quality to your persona... it just doesn't matter.

Great. I'm never going to be sexy.

Hi! I look young for my age, too. It's a struggle.

I've only been doing my makeup for the last two years or so, and I've found the reddit communities really helpful. They review new stuff and there are tutorials on how to apply makeup for certain looks or different faces.

I'm pretty hopeless with fashion. I have more luck dressing in a way that suits my body rather than whatever seems to be the latest thing. If you know an actress or singer with a similar body type to you, you could try looking at what they wear that makes them look sexy?

Hair is the thing that seems to make a difference for me. If I wear it down I get called "sexy" but if it's pulled back then I'm "uptight". Same drunk dude, two different nights - actually made a comment about how I needed to relax and let my hair down, but in a literal sense. My librarian bun was ruining his night or something. Haha.

+1 for letting hair down. I can be wearing sweats and I still get comments of that nature if I wear my hair loose, even(/especially?) if it's messy and tousled.

It's so weird! I feel like a cavewoman when it hasn't been brushed and pulled back but apparently people are into that?

Hmm. You don't have to 'trash' up your clothes or anything. I think it has to do with how you carry yourself and how you think of sex in general. There is definitely an aspect of what kind of clothes you wear and how you wear it. I'm not sure how other people see me, but I am told and I actively do feel a part of myself as being highly sexual, when I want. I do wear shorts and what not, but I don't really dress in a slutty way. Everyone carries 'sexy' and 'sexual' in their own way.

At a certain point in my young adult life I felt like I wanted to look older, because I got tired of being mistaken for a teenager. I changed the way I walked and I always wore shoes with a slight heel because I wanted to look more womanly. For the most part it worked, one of my friends once told me I had a diva walk.

main tips:
-walk straight with good posture, but not stiff and keep your shoulders back.

- Kind of cliche, but own your curves and femininity. You don't have to exaggerate your walk, but think of someone with a lot of poise and try to carry yourself like that.

- being comfortable in your clothes is important too. I like things with off the shoulder looks, but you can find something distinctly feminine that works for you.

Of course everyone has their own idea of what sexy is, but this is what I found worked for me. Maybe things will be slightly different for you. Good luck and have fun with it!

P.S. I don't even wear makeup, but definitely make sure your skin is a nice as you can make it, if you don't wear anything.

Honestly, it is so completely subjective what sexy is. It is going to differ between people. For me a lot of it is hair. I like long or at least longish hair, and especially if it is worn down. Clothes wise, while I do like skin, tight is really nice. T-shirts, tight jeans, things that show off a person's shape and gives a hint at what is underneath.

First, connect with your own sexuality. Wank a lot, get to know your body, really inhabit it.

Second, flirt. It's fun. The key to flirting is simply this: You know how when you like someone, you try to keep them from finding out you like them? Stop doing that. Don't make it a secret when you like somebody.

Also, since you're here, you probably run with a geek crowd, and I should warn you: geek boys are impervious to subtlety. If you think you're sending signals, I promise you they are not being received. Remember, geek boys only read text, not subtext. Make your sexiness text.

Considering the whole "trashing up your wardrobe" thing, it's probably entirely your attitude that makes people perceive you as unsexy. If you're uncomfortable with sex and sexuality and consider demonstrations of the latter declasse, it's going to show.

Well, the problem is that sexy is 95% attitude, and that's mostly to do with confidence. You could parade around in miniskirts and a bra all day long and still be giving off a not-sexy vibe. I've known women who never wore a speck of make up OR skirts/dresses, but guys flocked to them anyway. They were quiet, confident, but friendly and fully at ease with themselves and other people. Some of them knew how to flirt in a subtle way. But every single last one of them projected sexiness from inside, and it had very little to do with what they wore or what make up they had on.

Okay here's what I've got.
1) as someone with curves let me tell you that I have a keen appreciation (and quite a lot of envy) forhow good someone with few curves can look. What you want to do is quit wearing stuff like pencil skirts and form fitting clothes if it's not working for you. That's what those of us with curves have to wear so as not to look like a block of material.

You can get away with a whole different range of clothes. Not having curves is your blessing, dude. Start playing it up.

So here's my advice to you: throw out all your assumptions about what is and isn't sexy. We all know having an hourglass figure is a good look but it's far from the only good look.

Mirrors, cameras, whatever, use whatever to see your body from all angles and figure out what features you like and think look best. Then get yourself on a site like pinterest and find a whole bunch of clothes that look good on people with similar body types and/or show off the features you like on yourself.

Next head to the shops and try on new styles. Don't limit yourself, just dive in there. But do bear in mind that you are picking clothes to make your body lok good, not someone else's. There will always be the temptation to backslide into buying clothes for the body we want instead of the bodies we have.

2) the makeup issue. Don't sweat it. If too much doesn't work then there are ways round it. Because it can be a number of reasons it's not working for you though I recommend google, online tutorials, blogs like Maskcara, copying looks from pinterest, and maybe trying a free session at a concessions counter (though those can be hit and miss). Just be prepared to be critical of yourself- acknowledge what isn't working - and enjoy experimenting in the privacy of your own bathroom. :)

3) Looking sexy is no set formula. Dress for you and when you want to make an effort show off your favorite features. E.g. sexy shoulders? Strap tops. Sexy neck? Choker. Sexy legs? Pretty much anything.

Same goes for makeup. If you've got great lips, eyes, play them up. Don't play everything up at once though unless you can make it work for you.

If you look closely at pictures of people who look good online you'll see that looking good is all about accenting the sexy stuff and playing down any bits you don't think look good.

4) figure out if you're wearing the right colors. It can make a lot of difference. It's determined by the undertones of your skin and usually means people look better in either bluer (cold) or redder (warm) colors. Sometimes that can be an eye opener.

5) Finally there are only two set things that the majority of the population find sexy: looking healthy (esp hair and skin) and looking happy. So the best thing you can do is treat yourself kindly, love your body and dress for you. IIt's a habit that will always pay off for you. :)

SA I meant to say that not having healthy skin and hair can be a bitch but it also can be faked with the right makeup and hair products. Again tutorials are your friend. And if you eat well and exercise well then your body will usually thank you for it.:)

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