[ SECRET POST #2979 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2979 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

Online Dating

[aboutelle]

I think I'm using OkCupid wrong.
I've send messages to people I was interested to get to know and most of them actually wrote back, yay. But now what? I'm kinda just friendly chatting like I would on tumblr, writing messages back and forth about fandom stuff, hobbies etc. The reason I registered an account in the first place was to actually start a relationship, though.

Re: Online Dating

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know if you're a guy or gal, but based on the fact you sent the first messages, you have to take the plunge and move the relationship on. Something as simple as "hey, I was wondering if you might want to go on a date with me?" is both clear and casual, so friendships can still be recovered if the answer is no.

Re: Online Dating

[herpymcderp]

Some people do join dating sites to try to make friends, so your intentions do have to be pretty clear. People aren't going to assume you're looking for romance if you come off as wanting to chat, even on a dating site.

If you're interested in pursuing something more with someone, say so.

Don't be afraid to ask someone out.

Re: Online Dating

[(Anonymous)]

"That sounds interesting; want to get together for lunch and talk about it?"

"Oh boy, sounds like that's a good story. I bet you tell it better in person, though. We should get coffee together, and remind me I asked you about that."

"I'm glad you asked that, but it's kind of a lot to go into in an email like this. How about we get dinner and I'll give you all the dirt?"

Re: Online Dating

[(Anonymous)]

For all you know, they're thinking the same thing and both of you are too chicken to just bite the bullet and suggest a face to face meeting. If you want to date, you have to be brave enough to risk rejection. There's no shortcut or easy way around that.