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See this is what Friend says, and I don't get it. I'm not settling for girlfriend at all, I LIKE that she isn't my normal type because if anything to me it proves that she has something way more important to me than 'type' could be. It's not like I'm less attracted to her or settling for her (I'm lucky to be with her, if anything). I seriously don't get where this is coming from. Of course I wasn't instantly drawn to her the first time we met, this doesn't mean I'm not hugely into her now.

Also I'm not constantly bringing up that she's not my type. Friend has known me for a long time and observed that Girlfriend wasn't like the other girls that I was with before. I said all of the above, and then they went off like you did and I really do not get it. It doesn't matter and doesn't come up between Girlfriend and I- I remarked on it once early on, but that was about it.

You asked her if it was okay, though. That's bringing it up. Are you sure that was "about it?" Because your posts make that suspect.

Yes, I'm sure that was about it. I'm not asking for anything relating to Girlfriend, that was more of a "hey Friend is making some weird comments, does this bother you? No? Okay cool" thing. It's never been an issue between us, OUR relationship is good.

Friend is someone I've reconnected with recently but who's known me for way longer. I'd like to continue having a good relationship with them, but I'm not really into the insinuations about how I can't possibly care for girlfriend just based on her not being my type. It's Friend's issue here that I'm confused about how to handle, really. How do I explain to someone who feels that type is important that it isn't really?

Yeah, but your reactions to the insinuations is to seek approval... anonymously. On a forum. Do you understand that?

I don't know your situation, but please be introspective. Make damn sure you're not being thoughtless and insulting her by accident, okay?

The fact that you brought it up at all might make her think you do have your doubts.

Look, it might really not be a big deal to her now, but that's the sort of thing that you revisit during rough moments of your life and relationships, trying to see if the other person (in this case, you) meant something else when they said that.

Don't give her room for doubts that you like her, OP, is what your friend is trying to tell you.

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