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I'm very emotionally distant from my relatives, but they're close to each other. One died over a year ago, and relative X I'm in frequent contact with is still grieving. A handful of other relatives are also currently old and/or frail.

I had an excuse to skip the funeral last year (fact: the only funeral/wake I've attended in my life was for someone I'd never met, who wasn't related to me), but I'm worried I don't know how not to look like an insensitive prick at future family funerals. Also, X's grief will probably snowball and I feel guilty about how I've been dealing with it now, by "giving them space" by not saying much on the issue.

I'm late as usual, but maybe you'll see it anyway.
I think as long as you manage to keep a solemn face until everybody gets to the "tell funny stories about the deceased" part you'll be fine. Just offer your support to those who were closer to them and keep in the background. You're not required to cry.
And most importantly: Turn your cellphone off for the service. Because everybody WILL hate you if it rings (looking at you, something something twice removed, at my uncle's funeral)

Thank you :) Noted the cellphone issue.

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