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⌈ Secret Post #2988 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Pronouns amoung assholes

[(Anonymous)]

I'm an asshole because I'm suggesting a rational solution? So it's fair to the OP that their partner gets to dictate how strangers hear about them offhandedly? Even when it's going to make the OP's work environment difficult? Sorry, but the 'non-gender' schtick is not a mainstream thing. Most people don't even know what 'cis' is, let alone 'I'm no gender!'.

Re: Pronouns amoung assholes

[(Anonymous)]

Don't waste your time, Tumblr people live in a world of marshmallows mountains, rainbow rivers and ponies.

Re: Pronouns amoung assholes

[(Anonymous)]

I'd say they're the asshole, not you. The advice you gave was perfectly sensible.

Re: Pronouns amoung assholes

[raspberryrain]

Yeaaah, I'm going (mostly) to agree with you (and off anon).

OP:
I would suggest using the gender your partner mostly appears to present as. But considering how the pronoun game (cute phrase, I'm going to use it now) is used in some cases, just using their anatomical gender is probably how that shakes out for a vague androgyne, barring some unusual intersex/genderqueer presentation.

Or you could use he/him/his, which (however controversially) has a longstanding tradition in English of being used for a person of unspecified sex. Which your partner is in a...different way than that's traditionally meant, to you, but not to your co-workers. And they're already going with "he," apparently.

Now, if you say, "This is the love of my life, and using the right pronouns is more important that my work relationships or even my job!" then maybe you already have your answer. But in that case, you really need to talk to your partner and see if that's really what they want you to do, and if so, if that's what you're comfortable doing for them.