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⌈ Secret Post #2992 ⌋

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[Grand Theft Auto 5]

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[Zipang]

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[Ricky Gervais]

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[Tokyo Babylon/X1999]

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[Dexter]

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[The Mentalist]

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[The Truth - Terry Pratchett]

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[It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia]

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[Douglas Adams]

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[Black Books]

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[Lucky Star]

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[Edward Petherbridge as Lord Peter Wimsey]

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[Ga-In, Brown Eyed Girls]

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[Oz the Great and Powerful]

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[Colin Baker]

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[9 Hours, 9 Persons, 9 Doors]

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[Yatterman Night]

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[Johnny the Homicidal Maniac]

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[Blake's 7]

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[Game Grumps]

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[Alexis Denisof]

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...And that's your definition of "friend"?

Because that sounds more like "stalker" to me.

Yeah that's part of the problem.

I'm not sure how to explain the situation. Have you ever had a classmate who is new and friendless, so you try to be nice to her, and then she decides you are friends even though you don't like her that much, but you don't want to be a bitch? And then she makes friends with your other classmates so trying to get her to leave you alone becomes super awkward?

That's her.

If she's friends with several of your classmates why are you worried about her being lonely?

Also, I totally get this because I also tend to feel bad for people who seem lonely and want to reach out to them and then feel guilty if I find them unlikable, but remember that at the end of the day you aren't responsible for her loneliness and should not compromise your emotional health for her sake. Especially if it's evident that her having problems making friends is because she's manipulative, stalkerish, rude, or something else like that. People like that have to really want to change to change; otherwise, you can't help them - and if you don't know her very well how can you know if she wants to change?

I was asking because I had a shouting argument about the fact that I don't want her to meet my other friends and I needed some validation after her verbal lashing. I might have made her seem more sympathetic than she is.

You have no obligation for her to meet your other friends - especially if you know they won't get along.

*has 3 friends I don't dare to intro to each other because it will be a disaster. They've already got into a 3 way fight on my FB.*

Okay, this sounds like a real unpleasant situation. I'm not sure what I'd do in your situation, but I don't think you should go out of your way to invite her to hang with your other friends, especially if you don't want to spend time with her in the first place. You said she had already made other friends? I know it sucks but you'll probably only be causing yourself (and maybe her, in the long run) more misery by acting like you enjoy her company.

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