[ SECRET POST #2993 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2993 ⌋

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Comments

Re: I might be gay

[(Anonymous)]

Is it really worth that? Letting this asshole you used to see, and letting the assholes in your own family, do that to you?

Re: I might be gay

[(Anonymous)]

It actually might be. I'm at a point where I can't really see anyone--program's ending too soon and I might move. The LGBT community doesn't seem welcoming to women who come out late, ESPECIALLY if they identify as bi, and I'm not exactly good at socializing with new groups anyway. So I'd be making things harder for myself without any net gain or support.

I know that goes against the dominant narrative right now but that's where I am.

+1

[elaminator]

I totally understand if OP wants to wait a bit (it sounds like they've been through some heavy relationship drama and might need some time to heal), but if you want to come out you should.

We don't know your whole situation, but you shouldn't have to stay in the closet indefinitely. (Especially if doing so is making you miserable.)

Not to say I don't also get wanting to stay in the closet because your family are judgmental, but...you should do what's going to make you happy.

I hope things work out for you (either way)!

Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

The thing is a judgmental family would

I want to make it clear: I'm not worried about them judging me for being into women. I think mom would be grossed out but she doesn't think it's immoral or anything. I'm worried about being judged for having somehow misled this dude, when I was actually in love and faithful. What I'm risking here is people thinking I'm the horrible jerk, not the traditional fear of coming out and being rejected.

If this guy had never been a part of my life, there's a very good chance I'd be at least out to my in-person friends. I actively stayed in the closet so our relationship wouldn't be questioned. Meanwhile he didn't even attempt to keep his pants on, and the irony isn't lost on me.

I'm in a weird situation because I'm over that relationship (not how it ended, but the relationship) but still shackled to the lame decisions I made within it.

Re: +1

[elaminator]

I definitely see why you don't want them to believe you misled this guy, but it's pretty screwed up that they would jump to that conclusion. It doesn't sound like you can win with them (from what you say it doesn't matter when or what exactly you tell them) so I say do what makes you happy.

But it's your choice, so I hope you find a way to be open to them and that they don't blame you for something you didn't do.