[ SECRET POST #3003 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3003 ⌋

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Comments

Re: "I need you more than you need me."

[(Anonymous)]

It'd depend on how they said it and what they meant or implied by it.

Is it true? Is that a bad thing? Why is it an issue? What do they need you for?

Re: "I need you more than you need me."

[(Anonymous)]

That's the thing. I don't know what they meant or were trying to imply. Well, I'm not sure if my interpretation of what they were trying to tell me is correct actually, because I got the sense that they were trying to tell me I'm not trying hard enough in the relationship or that I'm not being as good as a support as I should be.

Whether or not it's true is what's worrying me because I keep wondering if I actually care about this person or if I'm just a huge liar. Admittedly, that might be what's scaring me — this idea that I'm somehow fake in everything I've done for this relationship.

Re: "I need you more than you need me."

[kallanda_lee]

I'll be frank: honestly this is how I feel about my bf right now. I wouldn't say it, because I've been doing the dance with depression for years now and I've learned a thing or two, but it just fucks up your brain.

On one hand it's, in a harsh sort of way, factually true. While most friendships or romantic relationships are (hopefully) two way streets, people who are vulnerable do have more to lose. They might have less relationships to begin with, and might bounce back less easily & get more isolated when one ends. Don't mean the other party can't get hurt, just that the stakes seem higher for the depressed person.

Secondly it's also just that mental illness can make you more dependent or childlike (if you're the kind that tends to regress). this again can have a practical side (needing someone to remind you to feed yourself) but it can also just be this sort of undefined emotional neediness, just wanting someone to BE here even if they're not actively helping or even talking, just knowing someone's on your side.

I can understand it scared you, but unless the're violent,I don't think there's necessarily reason to. You can probably help by just being a friend. However, if you do not feel like helping, do be honest. In the end it's up to you, though, and how you feel about that person, as well.