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"the growing acceptance of being overweight"

Oh, you sweet naive child.

I wish. I'm 39 this year and the difference in attitudes between people under 25 and those over 30 is staggering. It's kinda split with the 25-30 crowd but the under 25s really seem to think "Fat is beautiful! Shame that skinny woman!" Maybe it's just a fandom thing? That's my primary exposure to young people. I can't relate to their attitudes and think most are dangerously stupid, so I avoid them in real life.

It's a Tumblr thing. I'm 23 (almost 24) and I've never encountered that in real life. Most of the girls on my campus are slim. Most couples I see are guys with slim women.

AYRT

I'm 36.

If you genuinely believe the Tumblr attitude is in any way the attitude of real life, then you're about the most immature 39 year old I've ever met.

Those are kids trying to feel better about themselves in a world that makes them feel like shit. It's in no way a reflection of any reality.

...except that attitude is clearly prevalent here, too. And in other fandom spaces, like groups on facebook and at at least some meet-ups and conventions.

LOL, and you think F!S is "real life" do you?

Fandom spaces draw people looking for a community they don't get in real life because real life would judge the ever loving fuck out of them for it ("20+ and still watching cartoons/reading comics, wtf's wrong with you you creepy weirdo?"). Does it really baffle you that hard that people behave differently in their percieved safe spaces precisely BECAUSE they can't do that virtually anywhere else?

Hence "maybe it's just a fandom thing?" Apparently, the answer is yes. Now I wonder how much of it is because people like you can't comprehend what you see and read.

Because it's not a "fandom thing", it's a community and safe spaces thing.

Plenty of people into fandom have no connection whatsoever to thinspo/fatshaming/body positivity. Plenty of people who are involved in those things have nothing to do with fandom. Body positivity is a movement, it's not a "fandom".

People on Tumblr =/= everyone into fandom 100%.

I just want to add the whole "The internet is NOT real life" thing. Probably the most obvious is when I was sitting in a waiting room and the two secretaries were loudly having a conversation on "Why do some people act so retarded? That's so retarded." And people were either agreeing or just not paying attention.

Try saying the R word on tumblr, I dare you.

But real life? Nah, who cares?

If Tumblr is your primary exposure to young people, I suggest you interact on a much wider frame of reference.

Despite what it wants to think, the Tumblr hivemind is not reality, nor does it make up more than a miniscule percentage of it. If most of the kids on Tumblr tried behaving offline the way they do on that site, then the real world is going to be a massive shock to the system for them. No one gives a fuck about your triggers in daily real life. No one is going to cater to your feelings or use labels you care about.

It has nothing to do with fandom, except insofar as fandom serves the same kind of role by providing younger people with places to deal with and express their identities in a space with other likeminded people. And the very reason they have to do this, be it over fandom feelings, or gender identities, or race, or weight, or whatever else, is because the world outside the digital sphere is banging home all those norms (white, cis, straight, skinny, attractive etc.) and those people who don't fit the mold only have spaces like that to retreat to.

Do you honestly think that means the things they're dealing with are anywhere close to being accepted? If they were, then they wouldn't need such spaces, that's the whole point.

I'm amused that people here actually think thin people are "oppressed" somehow. Acceptance of being overweight exists because of the pressure to be thin. Maaaaybe people are really fucking sick of the bullying, sexism and overall disgusting internalized hatred of fat people. How about people accept health at any size, and the rest is between them and their doctor and maybe mind their own damn business?

It is accepted. Try being 20 pounds overweight and go to Asia and everyone will call you fat to your face. 20 pounds overweight in America is seen as normal.

Some places hate fat people more than others and have more stringent weight standards, therefore fat people are totally accepted?

Nah.

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