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⌈ Secret Post #3027 ⌋

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[mudousetsuna]

I don't know if you'll see this, but as an adopted person, I'm so forever grateful to my parents. I think a lot of it has to do with how open the parents are to their children, and how they treat them. My parents made it no secret that they adopted me, but they celebrated the fact. I had 'adoption day' following my birthday. Mom always gave me a card and baked me something special, letting me know how happy she was that I was her daughter. The older I got, it was less 'extra birthday' and more something that deeply touched me that they went to so much effort just to get me, and raise me. Especially with all of the trouble I was as a kid. We went through so many doctors and therapists and diagnoses of bipolar to autism, but my parents dealt with it all patiently and lovingly, and sternly when necessary. I have more resentment toward the people who gave me up, the mother who did drugs in her first trimester, but I've learned to forgive them for that.

Anyway, I know I'm just one person, and OP is also only one person, but if it means anything to you, I hope it gives you more hope that you really can be that difference in a kid's life. Older or not, letting them know you care will be a trial and may not be easy, but what they lacked before you come into their life can't compare to what you can give them as a parent. Maybe it just depends on the kid, but I hope you can make someone just as happy, too.

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I'm glad you are happy about it, but I tend to see much more things like this (http://www.stthomas.edu/news/reflecting-on-airplane-day/ ) where they aren't outright hating being adopted but are more like "I get sad on my birthday because I wonder about my parents. And I hate that I have lost my culture" kind of thing. And I totally understand why someone adopted would feel sad about having been given up for adoption. Or would feel resentment that their family isn't of their culture. (For me, it wouldn't be adopting from an Asian country, as in this case, but adopting a minority, as there are far more of them in the system of my city.) Like I babysit a girl who was adopted (and always knew she was adopted, with "airplane day" and the like). And her parents were older, but were really nice (almost too nice at times) and I could tell that they really loved her and wanted what was best for her. But she spent so much of her time resentful of being adopted. She spent so much time wishing she could find her birth mother. She frequently told her mother that she was not her "real mother". And other things of that nature. And I see things like that and just don't think it is for me. Even though I once thought it was.