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[Horrible Histories]

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[Burn Notice]

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[Bradley Cooper]

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[Grimm]

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[Assassin's Creed: UNITY]

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[David Walliams]

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[Game of Thrones]

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[The Avengers]

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[Fire Emblem: Awakening]

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I had people that I thought were friends suddenly act like childish bullies and abruptly turn against me. I cut them out off my life and now I have even less friends! :( I'm lonely right now and finding it hard to care about things for almost a month now. I do not have a lot of friends and the two morons I dropped like hot potatoes were two of my closest online pals.

Okay, and the question is...?

AYRT

I'm sorry that I didn't provide you with a question. Yet there were others who gave advice to me w/o needing a question to go on. I'll look to them. Thanks anyway.

AYRT

Hey, no need to get snippy. Considering the number of people who come to FS just to vent it's entirely possible you were one - and, yes. A fair number do get snippy when they get unwanted advice [and I've seen people do that with advice columns too, tbh.]

DA

I thought secret communities were for getting snippy and/or (passive) aggressive. That's why I show up here.

uh, you were sippy first, to be quite fair.

I'm sorry, anon. You sound rather depressed and it can be difficult making new friends in that situation. It might be a good idea to pursue a new interest, hobby or fandom and try to meet new people that way.

AYRT

Thank you for replying! Yeah, I am a bit depressed about that whole situation. I'm a bit shy and I've been picked on my whole life by relatives, friends, even strangers! Add some social anxiety to that and it makes quite a recipe. :(
My interests are varied and are mostly not mainstream. I don't like going to bars or clubs by myself because I'm not considered "attractive" so I'm usually left alone.

I think it'd be a good idea for you to explore why this is a recurring theme in your life. My guess is low self esteem. To many, a person with low self esteem is like blood in the water during a shark feeding frenzy. If you felt more confident about yourself and could project that, you might find that it helps you to make friends that are really friends, not bullies in disguise.

If all else fails, go to the bars and chat with the bartender. If nothing else, you can get good stories that might perk up your night a bit.

gah, that sucks. I'm sorry anon. :(

I find the friendships I make IRL to be much more stable and closer than the friendships I make online, in general. YMMV, but it might be a good idea to find a way to meet people IRL. That can be so much easier said than done especially if you're not in school - but even just meeting some people at work, joining a club or religious group, going to the gym...you don't have to make Super Duper Close Friends right away to alleviate some of the boredom. I hang out with people through one of my biggest hobbies but most people I see then I'm not super close to. But the social interaction is a big boost to me anyway. :)

I'm way over the age of 21 so making friends is much harder to do. :(

Making friends is a challenge at every age, anon, and most people usually have to keep doing it as they get older. There's no avoiding it. I don't think it's as hard as you seem to believe.

Yeah, I feel you. It was so much easier in school. :/

However, I still think it's worthwhile, AND keep in mind there are plenty of other people over 21 who feel the same way and some of them are bound to be good friend material for you :)

That sucks anon :( do you have less close friends you can start getting to know or maybe social groups you can start checking out? Try not to think about the shitty ones you ditched, I'm glad you got them out of your life.

AYRT

Thank you! I feel better than when I posted last night.

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