[ SECRET POST #3032 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3032 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Ioan Gruffudd/Horatio Hornblower]


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03.
[ebooks tree]


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04.
[Horrible Histories]


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[Burn Notice]


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06.
[Bradley Cooper]


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08.
[Grimm]


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09.
[Assassin's Creed: UNITY]


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10. [POSSIBLE WARNING for suicide]


[David Walliams]


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[Game of Thrones]


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12.
[Nina Dobrev]


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[The Avengers]


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[Fire Emblem: Awakening]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 019 secrets from Secret Submission Post #433.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Social etiquette

[diet_poison]

lol my first advice was going to be "don't answer, and tell them to buzz off if they persist" but obviously like you said that doesn't always work.

I think a polite but firm "I'm not comfortable discussing that" is a good way to go in many situations, especially professional ones. If people are asking you questions they should not be, document them (quietly), and if they cause trouble for you you can say "hey, I'm not obligated to talk about personal stuff at work, and I should not be penalized for choosing not to" to whatever relevant higher-ups/HR people there are. (You don't necessarily have to use your documentations, but I find it's useful to have that stuff just for the hell of it. It can make you feel better if nothing else.)

Also, if you don't feel confident, fake it. People will be more inclined to respect your boundaries and respect you and not resent you for setting those boundaries if you're firm and don't give any outward indication that you don't think what you're doing (setting reasonable boundaries) is okay. People put a lot of stock into what they think we think about what we're doing, if that makes sense - they may not even realize it, but if you seem 100% sure you're not doing anything wrong, I think they're less likely to vilify you.

Re: Social etiquette

[belladonna_took]

I feel like I'm handling random strangers being nosy better because I can fake being confident with them, but people who know me are more aware of the fact that I smile when I'm very uncomfortable or angry.



I THINK THEY'RE ON TO ME. OH GOD. OH GOD.

Re: Social etiquette

[diet_poison]

If those people know that about you and continue to push you when you are clearly uncomfortable and/or angry I...well...I really hope all the people you know aren't like that. That behavior sounds like it could be really toxic if it persists and I hope you are able to distance yourself from it if so.