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⌈ Secret Post #3040 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Once Upon a Time]

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[Tree of Savior]

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[Disturbed's 'Indestructible']

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[Whitechapel]

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[Bill Bailey]

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[Total War: Warhammer]

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[Morph]

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[Harry Potter]

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[FFXIV, RuPaul's Drag Race]

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[Monstrous Regiment by Terry Pratchett]

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13. [SPOILERS for Nightcrawler, Gone Girl]

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14. [SPOILERS for Devil Survivor]

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15. [SPOILERS for Age of Ultron]

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16. [SPOILERS for Broadchurch]

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17. [WARNING for incest, abuse, suicide, and probably necrophilia]

[Sankarea]

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18. [WARNING for abuse]

[Steven Universe]

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I don't think I worded this well enough. Sorry, I'll try to be clearer.

I do not want a kid to grow up literally exactly like Steven. That would be pretty difficult, considering that Steven is an idealized cartoon character and the kid would be their own human being with their own personality and experiences.

I want a kid to be like Steven IN THE RESPECT that they're willing to be themselves/ridiculous/open/anything because they won't have any reason to doubt that they'll be loved and accepted regardless. I also want them to be like Steven in that they're taught that the world is inherently good and worth fighting for, and they can (hopefully) believe in themselves enough to do that. I do not expect anything else, their personality or goals or mistakes or problems, to reflect a fictional character in any way.

I find Greg and the gems reassuring not because I believe being utterly clueless is totally a great way to raise a kid, but because hearing the stories of other families who can relate helps me remember that even flawed parents can have okay kids. (Granted, the opposite is true in that even great parents have have shitty kids. But that's the risk you take with kids.) Through this fandom and others, I've met other parents who can relate to being uncertain or worried they're not a good enough role model, and it's comforting to know that even a bad past or making mistakes doesn't necessarily make someone a guaranteed bad parent. And that someone doesn't necessarily have had to grown up experiencing the good in the world in order to teach a kid that it exists.

...I realize that all of this sounds a) cheesy as hell and b) incredibly fucking obvious. But so it goes.

Also, for what it's worth, I have no plans to raise a kid right now. I've only got the confidence that maybe someday it could happen, but until I actually learn more about what raising a kid takes, I don't think that good cartoon thoughts and a desire to not be like my parents are good enough.

for what it's worth OP, I understood your intent the first time. people took you awfully literally. and if I had a kid, I want them to have similar qualities as well! a world with happier, kinder, and free spirited kids is a fulfilling thought.

Well you sound like you'd make a good parent to me.

I understood that to be what you meant, OP. And sometimes seeing something on TV (or a book, whatever) and having a powerful reaction is really just a way to solidify things you were already working through but maybe hadn't articulated.

FWIW, in my experience having this kind of awareness and thoughtfulness before deciding to have kids is the best way to increase the odds that if it's something you choose to do, you'll be capable of giving a child the loving, supportive home you were unfairly denied.

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