[ SECRET POST #3040 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3040 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
[Once Upon a Time]


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02.
[Tree of Savior]


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03.
[Disturbed's 'Indestructible']


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04.
[Whitechapel]


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05.


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06.
[Bill Bailey]


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07.
[Total War: Warhammer]


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08.


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09.
[Morph]


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10.
[Harry Potter]


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11.
[FFXIV, RuPaul's Drag Race]


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12.
[Monstrous Regiment by Terry Pratchett]


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13. [SPOILERS for Nightcrawler, Gone Girl]



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14. [SPOILERS for Devil Survivor]



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15. [SPOILERS for Age of Ultron]



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16. [SPOILERS for Broadchurch]



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17. [WARNING for incest, abuse, suicide, and probably necrophilia]

[Sankarea]


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18. [WARNING for abuse]

[Steven Universe]










Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #434.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in a similar situation, I think, although at this point I think it's fair to say I doubt I'll ever have kids. Between an abusive father and a deeply neurotic mother (who, given how my grandmother was, would have been deeply neurotic even without my father's behavior making it worse), and the fact that I see tendencies of both in myself, it just doesn't seem wise.

I get wanting that clean slate, that do-over though. I get wanting to work so much harder to make sure the cycle ends with you and that you won't become what you don't want, and with the support and help you're getting OP I'm sure you can achieve that.

I can't help but read your secret though as all the qualities you'd want for your child as being, rather, the qualilties you'd want for yourself, if that makes any sense? You want to be able to feel ridiculous and enthusiastic and loved and strong and confident. Which is completely understandable, and what you're describing is the ideal parent/child relationship every kid would love to grow up in. But I wonder if there's a way to also cultivate those things in yourself, distinct from having it linked to a child?

I guess I'd just caution living too vicariously through any potential kids. You, with everything you've experienced, know the value of the things you're talking about. You know how important they are. A child, without (thankfully) that frame of reference might seem totally unappreciative of what you're trying to do. They might not understand what and how much you're doing for them, and they're going to be who they are (which may, occasionally, be a total, hurtful little shit as virtually every kid is at one time or another). So just... be prepared for a kid not to 'get' what you're offering them, I suppose. They'll be their own person, and if you put too much of your own self-worth in your idealized vision of how they'll turn out, then that might not be the best thing for anyone involved.