fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #3042 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3042 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04.

__________________________________________________

05.

__________________________________________________

06.

__________________________________________________

07.

__________________________________________________

08.

__________________________________________________

09.

__________________________________________________

10.

__________________________________________________

11.

__________________________________________________

12.

__________________________________________________

13.

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 071 secrets from Secret Submission Post #435.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

How do you decide when is a good time? Have you ever slept with someone and felt like it was too soon?

I slept with my first boyfriend on the fourth date and it worked out fine. Usually, these days, it takes me some time to feel comfortable around my partners though.

Dunno.

Pretty much as soon as soon as you've covered her mouth and got her somewhere dark, then sexy times begin.

This would be the part where the 'helpless' woman turns out to be a tentacled nightmare from some dark hell dimension and drags you away into the inky darkness

Doesn't matter, had sex.

Naw, you were flipped before anything could happen.

Not true, I passed my initiative and san roll checks.

I've slept with a partner before it was even officially a relationship, as early as the second date. I'm not a one night stand or first-date person, but I figure once I know them just a little bit, it's cool. It's not really an issue of respect or modesty or the sanctity of sex for me as it is I want to feel comfortable with them, and feel like I kind of know them and trust them.

But my current partner I've been dating for months and all we've done is kiss. It's more of a situation where it's hard to be anywhere that's not in the middle of the city, and we both live far on opposite ends so we don't get enough "alone" time... but still, it's getting to the point where it's a little long for me.

Whenever you feel like having sex.

There is no too soon unless you feel like it's too damn soon. Have sex before you start dating even, there is no rule.

This. As long as both of you are comfortable with it, go for it whenever.

In practice, it was never longer than 2 weeks - though I've been friends with the guys i slept with prior to the romantic relationship, so I think that's different (because you know each other well).

Cliche, but, as soon as you feel comfortable with doing it -- setting your level of desire to have sex aside, when the sense of security and enjoyment outweighs any feelings of shyness and awkwardness.

I pretty much date with the express purpose of sex; I just befriend the person, otherwise. So... as soon as is feasible, would be a good time, for me.

For you? Whenever you both feel ready.

+1

I'm probably not dating someone if I don't also want to have sex with them. I'm not a huge fan of "give them a chance, attraction might come later!" dating.

Oh dear god that line of reasoning is almost always disastrous. Attraction is in at least some part biological/hormonal and that's never going to change no matter how much you get to know somebody.

One of my friends started dating a guy because she felt she "owed" it to him for being her friend for so long after he asked her out, wasn't attracted to him at all, and asked me "well you can fake it right? it'll come in time." I asked her if they'd done anything physical and she said they'd kissed, and that she felt "repulsed" when they did.

Dude. DUDE. Dude.

Do not date a guy you're "repulsed" by. He would, I assure you, not want to date you if he knew that he repulsed you. Let him find a girl who is actually attracted to him for the love of fuck you're not doing him any favors and you don't owe somebody sex for friendship. He got your friendship out of it too.

Before the relationship, actually. Often on the very first hook-up, if things go well.

Ranges from 15 minutes to a year.

Well...my fiance and I met at a con, had a great time talking for like...4 hours. Then he took me home and we chatted for a week. I went over to his place to hang with him and some friends and we ended up...cozy. Boom, sex, and we've been together since. This was in 2011.

There are no rules, you have sex when you're comfortable with having sex and hopefully not before. Personally, I prefer to take things very slowly because it's a trust issue.

Quite a while. They have to prove their sponge-worthiness.

[ SECRET POST #3042 ]

How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?

Re: How soon into a relationship do you wait to have sex?