[ SECRET POST #3049 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3049 ⌋

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Comments

Re: TMI thread

[a_potato]

You've still got to talk to him about it, though. Ask him if he would be comfortable with potentially having a sexless marriage. You can say that you're willing to try, but he needs to be okay with the possibility that you won't like it once you do.

I know it's really scary, because you don't want to lose him, but this is a huge part of long-term compatibility. If the two of you don't see eye-to-eye on this, then the relationship will end eventually, even if you do get married.

A question: have you ever been attracted to anyone?

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

I have no idea. it's not a thing I think about, mostly. I had one short crush on one guy several years ago which lasted maybe a week. I don't think I really considered sex as an actual option or thing I wanted to do.
I know for sure my sex drive is low-ish... I think? I do masturbate sometimes.

I am actually going to start some counseling, in the hopes to clear up how I feel and how much of it might just be nerves.

Re: TMI thread

[a_potato]

That kinda does sound like sex may just not be your thing, which is totally cool. Counseling is good, however; at the very least, it can help you get to the bottom of your feelings and thought processes. But (and this probably already goes without saying) don't let your therapist try to convince you that not wanting sex is abnormal, because it's not; it's just uncommon.

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

I do know that asexuality is a thing that exists. I did some reading on it some years back, when I wondered why all my friends go on about boys and I just don't really notice them much (ftr I notice girls less. I don't think I'm a lesbian)
I am hoping the counselling will help me at least clear up some of this, and figure out how much is a habit, how much is nerves, and maybe they can have suggestions how to talk to him about it so it doesn't sound awful

thank you for being very kind in your responses :>

Re: TMI thread

[a_potato]

Oh yeah, I didn't mean to make it seem like you didn't/wouldn't know! It's just that, even when people know about something like that, it can be really easy for them to be made to feel weird about it, which absolutely sucks.

You're welcome, and good luck! It's a tough situation, but I hope you're able to come out of it feeling comfortable with who you are and what you want.