[ SECRET POST #3049 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3049 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

but what if I find out that it's actually nice when you do it with someone you care about?
it's not the feelings that are the problem... it's the sex...

Re: TMI thread

[kallanda_lee]

Honestly then you need to tell him you're not ready for marriage and ask him to give you time, and have sex prior to marrying him and figure this shit out.

But if you go in unsure that's even something you're willing to do once you are married, it's horribly unfair.

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

I know. that's why this is so difficult...

Re: TMI thread

[kallanda_lee]

Since this is TMI...do you masturbate at all? If yes, do you like it?

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

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I kept hoping we'd just make out or something and things would turn out ok and I could just be normal

Re: TMI thread

[kallanda_lee]

Honestly...I'm not sure "normal" is the goal. I think being true to yourself has much more value. but maybe that's just me.

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

at this specific moment in time, I'm not seeing much advantages to being myself. I'd rather be able to marry the guy I love with wholehearted enthusiasm and noen of this bullshit.

and yes, I do masturbate sometimes. it's usually over pretty quick, though.

Re: TMI thread

[kallanda_lee]

Basically you just need to try it.

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

You may be asexual and that's not a bad thing. That's just your orientation. Some people go their whole lives and find out they're gay later on. I didn't recognize my own asexuality until my twenties.

Re: TMI thread

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

Exactly. I'm bisexual, and I didn't realize that's what my "problem" was until I was almost thirty. I just thought I didn't understand what attraction was because I felt exactly the same way about cute girls as I did cute boys. I was raised very sheltered, and had no idea that people could be anything but straight. Once I found out there are other orientations out there, I was able to connect the dots.

Re: TMI thread

[caerbannog]

Tell him no anon, explain that you need time and maybe when you can - explain it to him. Maybe ask to try sex first, but don't force yourself if you're not enjoying it. Talk it over with him. He might be alright with it. Not all sex involves intercourse, maybe you could try helping him to masturbate or letting him watch you masterbate?