[ SECRET POST #3056 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #3056 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.



__________________________________________________



10.












Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 062 secrets from Secret Submission Post #437.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

I could be wrong, but I don't think OP meant that she should be happy with it, just that it sucks to hear somebody complain about something you want.

It's like my best friend constantly complaining about how she can't gain weight no matter what she does and how much it sucks when I'd love to have that problem. That doesn't mean she should be happy about it because I know it's not what she wants, but it still annoys me to hear about it. I don't tell her it annoys me (and it doesn't sounds like OP is saying this to her mom either) but it doesn't mean I can't vent about it when I'm not around her.

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

IDK, OP is just giving off this vibe of "What a harpy, she wants something I don't want."

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

no they're not

not even a little

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

OP still gives the impression that they think Mom is ungrateful.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think she's ungrateful at all, it's more like the person above said. I know it's not what she wants so I don't think she should just suddenly be happy with the situation, I was just venting.

The main thing that bothers me is that she frames it as "people who don't like sex are sick and wrong". And like I said in another comment, she complains but won't do anything that could maybe fix the situation, just "he's the one who's wrong, he should shut up and do it", which I don't think is really fair.

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

Seriously, the person you're judging here is the OP, and not the mom who is unloading onto her daughter her complaints about her sex life with the OP's dad?

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

I think, more than anything else, I'm reacting to the judgment that I'm seeing here, that OP's mom is childish and immature not because she's dumping her dissatisfaction with her nonexistent sex life on her daughter, but because, and I quote, "she's not getting any and she places so much importance on that that it's damaging her sense of self-worth." I got the impression that OP's mom was someone whose needs were not only not being met, but were being dismissed as silly. And that posters thought she was foolish and childish to let that affect her sense of self worth. As if having your needs (or even your wants) go unmet, and your distress about that dismissed, couldn't possibly cause a person to feel devalued in their relationship.

Now, with the additional information OP has provided, it sounds like OP's mom knew going into the marriage that she was getting the Last of the Shakers, and she went ahead thinking that she was going to change her husband. That puts a very different complexion on the matter for me.

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[diet_poison]

...no

really they are not

Re: Asexual with a mom who thinks it's "sick and fucked up"...feeling sad

[(Anonymous)]

It's not appropriate for a parent to bitch about her sex life with her child like that. It's also obnoxious as fuck when someone complains about something but never does anything about it. And it just makes it worse when they cap it off with blanket statements about entire groups of people and call men who don't fit in line "pussies."