[ SECRET POST #3056 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3056 ⌋

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Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Sadly, you've also just described my father there with pretty unnerving accuracy, so while I don't 'know' your mother I most certainly know the behaviors you described here and in your original post.

All I can tell you is to keep reminding yourself that all her lashing out, all her victimization and judgment is not a reflection on you. It's coming from a deep insecurity and emotional immaturity within her. It all speaks of issues she refuses to acknowledge and accept (because people with an ingrained victim complex refuse to take personal responsibility for anything; to do so means they can no longer occupy the passive "but everyone's always awful to innocent, hard-done-by me!" role). Those are the things she's really attacking, she just doesn't have the emotional maturity to do it the right way so you and your feelings are getting caught in the crossfire.

I know it's impossible to be totally unaffected by the hurtful things she says and the upsetting views she holds, but even if it's just sometimes, it'll help you massively if you can put some emotional distance between her actions and you and remind yourself that, despite how it sounds, she's really not talking about you (or your father, for that matter) at all. Whether she ever addresses what she's really frightened of, that depends on her. But in the meantime, don't ever feel bad about doing whatever you need to to protect your own emotional wellbeing.