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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-05-17 03:49 pm

[ SECRET POST #3056 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3056 ⌋

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OP

(Anonymous) 2015-05-18 05:05 am (UTC)(link)
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Not sure if this is directed at me or not, but if it is, I do think she's allowed to be sad about her situation. Being in a marriage with someone you're so utterly incompatible with in such a major way sounds horrible, and I would never want to be in that position. But to attack the other side is not the mature way to deal with it, and when you're insulting and judging a group that your child is a part of, even if you're not aware they are (and I honestly think it'd be even worse if she was aware), I think the child is allowed to feel hurt by your words.

Re: OP

(Anonymous) 2015-05-18 03:15 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry I spoke harshly of you, and I agree, it's not at all fair on you--both because it's cruel of her to insult and judge you (even if, as you say, she's doing it unwittingly because she's judging a group you belong to), and because it really, really is not right for a parent to use her child as her therapist.

I did get the impression that at least some of the other posters thought her distress about her situation--which is presumably the source of her animadversions about asexuals--was "ridiculous and narrow-minded," and that she was selfish for wanting more sex than your father was prepared to give. But with the new information you've given, it does sound as if she went into the marriage knowing that there was an issue, and she just expected your dad to change for her because...well, because.